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Okay ladies...please chime in. As in One Flesh, maybe? Because it is used in the sense of husband and wife, yes it hints at that, although not always. Hebrew is an odd language with only 1200 some-odd words. Context largely defines usage. It does hint that in the passage of genesis that MM is speaking of.
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Okay ladies...please chime in. As in One Flesh, maybe? Because it is used in the sense of husband and wife, yes it hints at that, although not always. Hebrew is an odd language with only 1200 some-odd words. Context largely defines usage. It does hint that in the passage of genesis that MM is speaking of. Another interesting thing about names in the Bible is they are often not static. Abram (exalted father) becomes Abraham (father of a multitude), Jacob (supplanter) becomes Israel (God prevails) and many more. New names, or special names are often given in light of deeds, actions, etc... Pet names that carry this idea IMO, are often as important as given names (named by parents). Maybe it is part of that one flesh thing where it signifies even more of an ingrafting of the two as they become one... Bob is no longer just Bob, he's Sexy wood-chopper guy or something like that.
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My opinion on this is that if someone uses my real full first name i feel like i am in trouble lol. My mother would call me by my shortened name all the time and when my full name was used it was always when i was about to be punished. SO in light of that, when my first name is said in full its usually to get my attention but in a negative manner (unless someone is reading some formal documant or something and doesnt know my short name version) so i find myself feeling a love bank withdrawl when its said in full. 
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My mother would call me by my shortened name all the time and when my full name was used it was always when i was about to be punished. Now, when she called me my first and middle name....LOOK OUT!!
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My WXW called me a douche-bag a few times. Does that count?
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My mother would call me by my shortened name all the time and when my full name was used it was always when i was about to be punished. Now, when she called me my first and middle name....LOOK OUT!! Yeah .. that and my entire full name including my full first name .. 2 middle names and last name ... lol .. i would run for the hills! >.<
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My WXW called me a douche-bag a few times. Does that count? naa ... becasue she was really referring to herself.. :P If this was too mean .. slap me ok??
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I think you're right.
DH doesn't call me by my name often, but when he does it means something.
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I do not like when my husband uses my name - in fact, he rarely does - it just seems so distant, formal, odd. I love when he calls me "Babes," his pet name for me!
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I am big on pet names, my dad is pops, my mother marmee etc, everyone gets one!
Me and WH called each other babe and baby a lot - I always loved that, he said it so affectionately and I know he loved being called that too. He would practically beam.
Plus I called him bluey - (very deep blue eyes) and he made a big deal out of calling me chicken. He called me it when we started dating and I misunderstood and thought he as calling me a coward an he laughed and sai - no, 'foxy chicken' So that was a special one.
However I get you entirely when you say that using each others given name, in that particular tone, has a strange and unusual power.
When my H went wayward, the pet names disappeared and my own name was used instead. But not in the right tone of voice.
I think intent is everything.
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pet names from the lady at the supermarket like honey are fine, because she doesnt know my name.
My H and i had a big conversation about this with counselor, recently she asked if we had pet names, we had joking ones but if H every called me hon honey babe i would be pissed. sorry first name for me say it loud and proud.
he could call anyone hun, honey or babe. its just something i feel strong about.
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pet names from the lady at the supermarket like honey are fine, because she doesnt know my name. I cannot stand it when they do that! Especially when they do it to Markos when I am standing right there.
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pet names from the lady at the supermarket like honey are fine, because she doesnt know my name. I cannot stand it when they do that! Especially when they do it to Markos when I am standing right there. Yep, any woman waiting on me better fear Prisca's wrath if she calls me Honey, Hon, or Sweetheart. She does NOT like that! And that's one angry outburst that's kind of cute to see, actually...
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I would love to see my wife have an AO at someone for reasons similar as that.
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Yea... After the A he was not allowed to call me any pet names, I.e. honey, babe as he used those with posow. So definitely my name is important for me to hear. I kinda liken it to what I've heard here on MB, when speaking of the AP, call them
Joel's wife or Susie's husband. Using your given name keeps it personal, at least to me.
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pet names from the lady at the supermarket like honey are fine, because she doesnt know my name. I cannot stand it when they do that! Especially when they do it to Markos when I am standing right there. Yep, any woman waiting on me better fear Prisca's wrath if she calls me Honey, Hon, or Sweetheart. She does NOT like that! And that's one angry outburst that's kind of cute to see, actually... I love that gal!! 
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I call my XWW " The Kids Mother " She has tried to call me by a pet name and my
Wife told me to Plan "B" her. I have not said anything to XWW in 11 years thank god.
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Mortarman, I melt when my H says my name. I had a nickname for very many years, and he was my 'return' to my name. My nickname had nothing to do with my given. I am still sometimes startled to hear my real name.
I also call him by his full first given name (often shortened in the US). He loves that. He said nobody has ever called him that before. He put it on his business cards and his voice mail.
It's not only women who love to be recognized by name for who they fully are!
Marriage is the triumph of imagination over intelligence. Second marriage is the triumph of hope over experience.
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Thank you for this thread! I thought there was something wrong with me because I don't like pet names. Now I see some do, some don't.
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