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dday was 1/12/12
I hate that I count the hours at work until I see him. Is this normal? And then when I do, sometimes it�s strained between us but sometimes its good. We are working on not love busting each other and not talking about the affair. I know he is trying but is depressed � either with withdrawal (I printed off what Dr. Harley wrote about it and gave it to him), guilt over what he has done or anger of what I did two years ago. Probably all three.
I remember when he was the betrayed spouse he had concentration problems and worried like crazy. When he contacts me during the day it gets me through but why should I have to depend on this. I never did before. It�s like I�m a different person. I hate this person who is insecure and needy.
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Yes it is normal if your spouse works right by the OW like your husband does. All he has to do is walk a short way to see the OW and you would never know. Every day he goes to work there you will wonder if today was the day. If the alcoholic goes in the bar every day he eventually picks up the drink.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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