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My husband works so much we don't share time together. I feel my emotional needs are no longer getting met. I have tried to be open about how I feel but he feels it is unsupportive and selfish for me to want more time as a couple and family. Any advice this matter is appreciated. Thank you.
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My husband works so much we don't share time together. I feel my emotional needs are no longer getting met. I have tried to be open about how I feel but he feels it is unsupportive and selfish for me to want more time as a couple and family. Any advice this matter is appreciated. Thank you. Welcome. This is an excellent place to learn the tools to have a very romantic marriage. Dr. Harley himself is a proclaimed workaholic and him and Joyce have a very romantic marriage. Please listen to these radio clips about Dr. Harley talking about a workaholic. Radio clip on workaholics segment #2 Segment #3
FWW/BW (me)
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Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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Hi Freed, I'm new here too, and MelodyLane referred me to this article, which may help you, too. http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi8111_quit.htmlIt talks about emotional neglect. I am married to a workaholic, too, and I feel your pain! Best of luck to you! Hugs! TinT
TinT--Trouble in Texas
Me: 40
Husband: 38
Married for 17 years
Together for 20 years
DD15
DS13
DS4
H's EA discovered 1/1/12
Caller on radioshow 5/8/12
Been in counseling with SHarley since 5/17/12
On the road to recover my marriage
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A couple of thoughts:
1) Make sure it is pleasant when he does come home. If he gets home to "you are always working!" then he may avoid it.
That isn't to say he doesn't need to do his share or you should avoid the topic, but it needs to be brought up in a nice way.
2) Is there somebody at work he likes to spend time with? In other words, is he possibly having an Emotional Affair with someone at work?
3) Is this an all the time thing or a seasonal (e.g., tax time) thing?
4) Did you both agree when he took this job?
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