I know exactly how you feel. My XH is a computer programmer and he didn't find it. In fact, even AFTER D day he didn't know it was there. It took an extreme act of will to not tip my hand to the crap I was finding daily...but the pay off was I had about 10 weeks worth of hard evidence which included 2 OW, proof he had an affair 7 years earlier, the extent of his porn use and other conversations with people letting me know he was living a double life. That overwhelming physical evidence is what gave me the strength to tell him 'Enough. I will never take you back.'

As I've said before even after I presented him with the evidence he couldn't get it off his computer. I had a few fun evenings 'watching' (from my house across town) him try. He finally asked me to remove it.

Just wanted to update those who have given me advice. I did install the eblaster on our home computer on Friday night. Wow, that thing is amazing, I wished I had found that long before now. So far, no secret email log in or anything else out of the ordinary for my husband. I feel so much better now that I have actually installed it. I truly hope this is something that stays hidden and he does not discover it.

Excellent! PEACE OF MIND!

Bumping for zouzouni. Does this help at all?

no help at all. My husband has spybot search and destroy. The eblaster is clearly listed in the settings. I have watched him check settings and run the program just about every other day.

I put in refog and both avast and spybot found it.

I tried to put in Powered Keylogger and it doesn't work with Windows 7... I need some peace. He has me believing that he is not doing anything but I KNOW that can't be true.

So eblaster files are shown on the "exceptions" list and he's then figuring out that it's installed, correct?


People with nothing to hide tend to not get upset. I don't know your story, but am sure others will advise on what your next steps should be so that you can find that peace and leave the drama behind if he refuses to knock it off.

Northwood, I'm glad you came to this thread. I have been talking to zz on her thread in SaA, but I have no idea how to answer the questions about the eblaster.

If the eblaster has indeed been installed, then zz must be disabling it herself while she continues testing it, until she is sure it is undiscoverable. zz is terrified of the installation being discovered because her H has been physically abusive in the past. She is an American living in a part of Europe that seems to be rural and traditional. The police don't seem to follow any rules so she does not seem to be protected by the law very well.

Her H hasn't discovered the eblaster, but he is very savvy and she is certain that he will discover it. She seems to have tried to disable the anti-virus programme but that seems not to work. Have you any idea how to stop this particular kind of anti-virus programme from discovering it?

When installing eblaster, Windows Defender and any antivirus programs should be turned off. During the installation, eblaster gives you a list of a dozen or so files that you must enter into your antivirus so that the program isn't detected.

Avast and Windows Defender both have settings where you input the list of excluded files. I don't recall AdAware catching eblaster, or spybot finding it, either.

Unfortunately, those tech savy folks can easily pull up their antivirus and see if a bunch of files are shown in the exclusions list and, by deleting them and running the antivirus, can detect the keylogger.

As she's probably discovered, turning off the antivirus permanently triggers the annoying Windows alarms alerting the user of the situation.

Going solely by what you told me, though, I'd forego the keylogger if he's going to such great lengths to detect it and just get out of the abusive situation entirely. Sometimes you don't need to know everything about a situation to know that it's time to bail.

A quick google search of "American living overseas in abusive relationship" turned up this...

http://www.866uswomen.org/Default.aspx

I installed eblaster on DH's laptop this past Friday afternoon and it works like a charm IF I do the playback on his laptop (his laptop is not password protected so far). I got up in the middle of the night to check it and saw everywhere he'd gone since Friday evening. Googling possible OW's name and porn sites.

Has anyone run into this problem.....I can use the "hot keys" on his laptop (ctrl+alt+shift+s) to logon and see the sites he's visited on the internet. However, I'm not getting any email from SpectorPro and would rather be able to see the information that way than to have to logon to his laptop. Getting up in the middle of the night is going to get old and I'm exhausted today. Thanks in advance.

When you install eblaster, it asks you where you want the reports sent. Go back into the eblaster control panel and go to "report delivery." Click the "on" button and enter your email address. You can also select how frequently you want the reports sent.

Also go to the "record" tab and select "yes" in the "record chat/im" activity.

Once you have done this, go to the "status" tab and select "send a current eblaster report" to test it.

Select "yes" for everything.

It's quite possible that you had "no" selected for email reports. I think "no" might be the default position for all your choices (if memory serves).

Play around with all the settings and options on the different pages. Something is switched off somewhere.

Thanks MelodyLane and SugarCane, I will check into all you mentioned!

If you still aren't getting reports, contact Spectorpro and see what they say. If memory serves, their response time for questions was reasonable.

WhatIsNext, eblaster should be emailing reports to you at the email address you select. You shouldn't have to get up in the middle of the night and have to access his computer. Check your settings. My eblaster sends reports to my email anytime there is activity on the keylogged computer. I can see those reports on my own computer. No accessing the target computer is necessary.

I'm getting keyword alerts via email, set that up this morning. So I know email is getting to me from eblaster. I'll have a chance to look again tomorrow to check on what MelodyLane posted earlier in this thread. I thought I had it all set up but apparently not if all I'm receiving is the keyword alerts. Hopefully I'll only have to access his laptop one more time.

It sounds like you need to change your preferences. You don't need to access your H's computer to do that. You can change preferences on the email the reports are being sent to.

I should apologize, in my rush to get everything installed on DH's laptop, I purchased the wrong program; SpectorPro instead of eBlaster. SpectorPro surely does a good job of monitoring his activities but there is no way to get emailed reports. This morning I installed eblaster and now have everything set-up and have set up my email preferences....and correctly, I might add. Have also done the test email.

DH is very NOT tech savvy and has no idea either program is installed on his computer. However, yesterday when I was checking the other program, for whatever reason I selected 'hibernate' instead of 'shut down' when I was done with his laptop. Apparently he goes through the control panel to manually log onto the internet every time he gets on his computer. Selecting hibernate did not logoff the internet (from when I was on there) and when he came home later he asked me if I'd been on his computer because the internet was already logged on. I played it off well, blamed it on having to restart the router, and he seems to not suspect anything.

At any rate, I guess it's worthwhile to pay attention to their other habits while on the computer so they don't suspect you've been on there at all for any reason (for those who don't share a computer). Now that I've got things straight and am now using the correct program, I should not have to be on his laptop at all anymore. For which I am very thankful! Being on his laptop always freaked me out since his schedule varies a bit more than mine does, at least on some days.....never know when he might come home early or whatever.

I'm disappointed DH has put our marriage in a position where I have to use a program like this (would rather not have to snoop, have trust issues, etc) but it's a good thing these programs exist. Sure puts one's mind at ease.

Thanks to all for your input!

is there an eblaster for the Iphone 4?

Does eblaster need a reboot in order to complete the install? I would like to get this on my husband's computer but I don't know his password. There is a good chance he'll leave it open at some point, but if I need to reboot I won't be able to log on again. Thanks!