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MBers, My mom said it best: "Son, you can be proud of the 21 years you were together, had 3 beautiful kids, and enjoyed many great times together. Blessings are ahead."

Needless to say, my wife filed for divorce on 8/28/12. I have a new apartment lease as of 10/1/12. I had so many hopes that my efforts would not be in vain but alas, I didn't succeed. My oldest is already out of our house with his own daughter and girlfriend. My 18 yr old DD has probably been most affected by this ordeal. My 10 yr old DS seems to be coping very well.

Me, good and bad days. Mostly ok. Today was bad because my incurable romantic part keeps thinking I can win her back. So I make her coffee and write her love notes and get back just what I should know - nothing but anger and venom. Its a sad day.



Originally Posted by bigpicture
Again,
Thanks to everyone here for helping me establish boundaries against DJ's and AO's. I will investigate the book mentioned above too as I am a big reader.

On Saturday, during our only "discussion" about the events from Thursday, I was very clear and calm stating that I would not allow her to insult me by calling me things like delusional and stupid. And I doubt I would have been able to defend my boundaries like that... I may not have even recognized them for what they were (DJ's and AO's) if it weren't for the help from all you fellow MBers' so THANK YOU
THANK YOU
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I really feel this has increased my knowledge 10 fold. For awhile I felt like...

Big Picture has been transformed into a DEFENDER OF MARRIAGE superhero.
Faster than an angry outburst.
More powerful than a disrespectful judgement.
Able to leap marital dischord in a single bound.

Look! Up in the sky!
It's a husband. It's a wife. It's Super-marriage!


God's goal for marriage: Become ONE! How? MBer methods.
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hello bigpicture. i have just read your thread, and am so sorry to hear your update. i don't have any words of wisdom to offer you, just ((((((PB)))))


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You got a lot of crap advice. Have you tried MB?


Marriage is the triumph of imagination over intelligence. Second marriage is the triumph of hope over experience.
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Originally Posted by CWMI
You got a lot of crap advice. Have you tried MB?

He didn't try Marriage Builders. He used bits and pieces from every dog and cat program around. For example, he quotes parts of IMAGO above [validation] which, unfortunately, didn't even work for Harville Hendrix. I am sorry it didn't work out for you, bigpicture.


"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

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