My wife told me today that she had sex with a co-worker who had been sexually harassing her. I don't know what to think. She also says that he forcibly raped her prior to this. I don't understand what happened. I'm so hurt and furious and I don't even know what happened? He took her into his truck and they ended up having sex. After he had raped her earlier. I don't understand what is happening there. She has been a victim of rape before. She said that talking to him and flirting with him was a cycle of sexual abuse. But until today I didn't know that she actually had sex with him. I'm so hurt and I'm furious and I don't even know what to do. She says she is moving out because she can't deal with the consequences. According to her she has ruined the marriage. I don't want that to be true. I don't want any of this to be true. I don't want to lose her. I don't even understand what happened. I don't know why she would have sex with a man who raped her. I keep telling myself that it wasn't consensual. She says it was consensual but also not consensual. I don't know if I'm just fooling myself because I don't want to think about her willingly giving herself to another man. My mind is going a million miles a minute and it keeps coming up with new awful scenarios and I wish it would just stop. I don't even know if I have a question. I just need to get the words out. I don't know why she would do this. She says she hated it and it hurt. I want our marriage to survive this. But I don't know how to get over something like this, and I don't even know where to start. Sorry for my rambling. I'm just in shock and I'm falling apart.
Welcome to MB and I'm sorry for your pain.
Who is this OM? Is he married?
If you want to try and save your marriage you need to expose this affair and especially a workplace exposure.
I don't know if she is telling the truth about being raped, but if she is press charges.
Also you both need to be tested for STDs.
Please read this and come back.
Exposure 101