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Yes welcome thehappywife

My husband and I were high school sweet hearts, but went our separate ways after school. We both had other relationships, traveled a lot, but never found happiness anywhere else. He had two kids with someone else while we were apart, which was about 10 years. When he found me again, they were 4 and 2 and their mother has been in and out of the picture, never stable. We got married, made a family and now we have added two more kids to the mix. We both thought we were old enough to know better, but we did not communicate well in the first few years. We are now closing in on our 6 years anniversary and we have learned a lot and we are happier than ever. The biggest lesson I have to share is that there is a difference in sharing the truth in love and using the truth as a weapon. I like the concept of the love bank. I look at it as sewing seeds and reaping the harvest. My husband and I have learned to sew seeds of love and uplift each other. We take time to notice the things that often get lost in the daily business of life. It's a little like dating each other every day. It's not as glamorous as those pre-marriage days where we got to spend more uninterrupted time, but more like those times when we had to work at it harder.

It's a great concept, isn't it
Would you say you and your husband feel romantic love towards each other?

Very much so, but it takes work. Especially in the days after my two pregnancies, one with a traumatic delivery and the second with a premature/NICU baby, we had stress and we weren't as good in the romance department. Now we are better, though. Sometimes it literally means counting the days between the intimate moments, to make sure we don't let life get in the way too much.

Was your DH divorced when you two started dating?

He never married. Our oldest, his firstborn, was an unplanned pregnancy as a result of a casual dating relationship. They tried to make a family, which resulted in our second child. It was a few months after he was born that their birth mother, very young at the time, decided she wasn't prepared to commit to full time parenting or monogamous relationships. She has been in and out of our story.

With young children, how much UA time are you getting a week?
The Critical Importance of Undivided Attention

My husband works a rotating schedule, 2 on 2 off 3 on and then 2 off 2 on and 3 off, 12 hour shifts and two weeks a month it's over night. Needless to say, we have 10 yr old, 8 yr old, 4 yr old and 16 mo old and we have probably 5 hours of UA a week. If we can get away for a date night, then it's more like 8 or 10. 15 hours sounds luxurious!

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Would you like to live in luxury then?

What do you think about trying to get that 15 hours UA time?

BTW, we've got 6 kids ourselves: 8, 6, 5, 5, (twins!), 4 and 2.

Can you sit down and schedule UA time?