My husband had an affair at the beginning of the year and we were separated for about 1.5 months before he came back. Now that we are trying to work things out, we find out his mistress is pregnant. She is not exactly trustworthy, as she is already engaged to her live-in boyfriend, so we do not know 100% if it is my husbands. However, the date on her sonogram suggests a high probability of it being my husband's child. I am furious, confused, and heart broken. Anybody else been through a similar scenario?? I do not know what to do!! I wrote our church pastor to see us again after the latest events and waiting for a response back. I am wanting a DNA test asap after the child is born!

I'm in the same situation. My husband had one night stand after I miscarried. The woman fell pregnant. D-day was a year ago. The pain is still there and it hurts. I'm still a newbie myself. But some days it does get easier. I thank God I found this site because I'm looking for advice as well. We go to therapy and church which helps a lot. It's hard to have hope. I pray that you get as much guidance as I do on this site. We have NC with OW or OC which helps as well. Ill pray for you, and remember that through God all things are possible. No matter how hard it may be. Just remember that you are not alone in this.

Hit Notify and have the moderators combine your 2 threads so the posters will know your back story.

Don't do DNA.
Like sadinseattle123 say No Contact!

Hi butterfuly,

I am very sorry you are having to deal with a pregnancy that may be due to your WH's infidelity. There are many of us, unfortunately, that have been down this same road. Right now you need to focus on the recovery of your marriage and that includes NO CONTACT with the OW. Basically, there is no child until DNA proves that the baby is your husbands. Since you cannot force the OW to have DNA done you will need to wait until the child is born and see if she files for child support. In the meantime if you have children from your marriage you need to file for child support NOW to protect your family finances and consult a family law attorney to do everything possible to protect yourselves.

As rotten is this is, you need to remember that you have no rights or say so regarding this child or any legal matters surrounding the child. IF she choses to name your husband as a possible father then he can request a DNA test. This is the part that makes us wives crazy because the courts don't give a darn about us or our existing children from our marriages. That is why I am telling you NOW to protect yourself and your finances before this child is born.