Even if the affair ended a year ago?

Yes, because it hasn't. They are still sending naked pictures as of a week ago.

Expose.

I guess I misexplained that. He has not (to my knowledge) had contact with her since may. I confronted her and said if she ever talked to him again I would expose them. As far as I know, that scared her straight. Last week I found messages on his phone to someone else. Since I have been
Posting tonight I found an email to a different girl. The girl with the affair has not done anything that I am aware of

Gotcha.
Ok but all his OW should be exposed if they were married.

Oh. Okay.

I would concentrate mostly on this new OW2 or OW3.

Was OW1 married?

No, OW1 is not married, she has a live in boyfriend. I do not know names od OW2 and OW3. Based on what I read, they are strippers he met on his business trip last week. I doubt he told them hes married. OW2 phone number is not working, so I guess she gave him a bad number on purpose. I sent an email to the OW3 but have not gotten a response back. My husband claims that the messages to OW2 are fakes he put in his phone to see if I was snooping. He does not know I found the email to OW3 today. I wanted to see if a real person responded to me. I know he say it is also a fake. But when I first confronted him about the texts, it took him 20 mins to do anything than say 'I don't know'. Then he came blew up at me saying he did it to see if I trusted him. Said I need serious psychiatric help.

Don't listen to his gaslighting. Read this.
Please explain GasLighting

So you only have OW1's information? Is there anyway to get OW2 and OW3's info?

I don't think I can get their info.

Oh my god, the gaslighting is completely my husband. He and I are always arguing over things he says never happened.

Ok let me sum this up and correct me where I may be wrong.

He had an affair with OW1, but NC since May. You never exposed to OW1's BF because she promised to stop and so far this may be true.

Then you find OW2 and OW3's naked pictures and emails as of last week. They are strippers he met on his business travel. The video proof you have is back home on a flash drive you have stashed but you don't have on you.

You are planning to expose him about all women, but you will let OW1's BF know and there is no way to find out who OW2 and OW3 are.

Does that about cover it?

Have you tried looking up their phone numbers?

Not naked pictures of OW2&3, texts and emails. He claims to have "planted" them to see if I was looking through his things. However I do not believe that. Everything else is correct. I want to make my marriage work, we have a toddler that I don't want hurt in this whole ordeal. I feel stupid and used.

Ok so from the emails can you gather OW2&3's information?

I would get the exposure done as soon as possible. When it implodes on him you tell him that he needs to quit his traveling job and live a completely transparent life to remain in this marriage.

We understand how you feel. Waywards are very selfish people addicted to their drug, the affair.

My husband and I have been doing alot of talking lately, he has agreed to go to marriage counseling, and I am going to go home on Tuesday.

Marriage counseling has a 84% failure rate. Can you do MB coaching?

You're not going to expose?

x2. I agree with Brainhurts, MB coaching with one of the Harleys would benefit your marriage. They have a success rate and specialise in helping couples survive and affair and build a better marriage based on romantic love and honesty. This woud be money well spent and your marriage will have a better chance of recovery than seeing a marriage counsellor who can actually harm your recovery.

I did not know MB had marriage coaching. I am going to look into that, I would rather do that, because marriage counseling has failed us before.

Thats a great decision. You can find information on the MB website about the counselling offered by the Harleys.

Yes here you go.
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My husband and I have been together for 6 years now. Shortly after our 3yr old daughter was born, I found out he had been having an affair, off and on again since we first started dating. This was three years into our relationship. He says he ended the affair (one was his best friends widow, another was his son's (my step-son) babysitter) when he found out I was pregnant. My husband seems to like to take photographic evidence of his affairs, and finding these pictures and videos is how I found out about the other women. I struggled with staying or leaving, but decided to stay for the sake of my newborn daughter. A year later I found more videos of him having sex with the friends widow, these were taken after my daughters first birthday, I could tell because he got her name tattooed on his arm with her birthdate, and that was visible in the videos. I let him talk me into staying again. Then last year I found texts he had sent to strippers while he was on a business trip. I found out he had intended on having sec with one of them, but they never responded, so he does not consider it cheating. I stayed again for the sake of my daughter. The only time he confesses to cheating on me is if I can show him proof of the actions, but even with videos of him having sex with other women, he still tried to deny anything happened. He claims to have changed, and has not cheated on me in a year, but he is overprotective of his phone, and is working long hours now. I know he eats at Hooters, Twin Peaks, or Bikinis every day for lunch. I try to tell him how that makes me feel, but he does it anyways. He also has more porn on his phone than pictures of me and/or our little girl. Because of some internal organ problems I have been having, the past two months it really hurts me to have sex. I try to please him in other ways, but I believe he is cheating on me again. I have begged and begged him to just tell me if he is cheating rather than lying to me, but I know he won't. He says he loves me and is terrified of losing me, but I'm afraid that now I have just taught him that he can do whatever he wants, that I won't leave. Do I believe him that he is being faithful to me? Help!! I just need someone to talk to. I don't have anyone to talk to about this, and to get advise from.