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Looks like Dr. Harley's new book He Wins, She Wins: Learning the Art of Marital Negotiation is available for pre-order on Amazon and is coming out October 1st:

http://www.amazon.com/He-Wins-She-Learning-Negotiation/dp/0800722515


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Awesome!

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He Wins, She Wins
Learning the Art
of Marital Negotiation


Marriage Builders Bookstore: He Wins, She Wins Every conflict in your marriage is an opportunity to fall more deeply in love.

You've probably heard a lot of advice on how to resolve conflicts in your marriage. What you may not know is that if a resolution comes only in order to keep the peace, it's no resolution at all. Marriage expert Willard F. Harley, Jr., says there's a better way.

What's different about the He Wins, She Wins approach is the ultimate goal--for you and your spouse to grow in your love for each other. This win-win model for negotiation starts with a simple rule: Never do anything without an enthusiastic agreement between you and your spouse.

Think that sounds impossible? In this book, Dr. Harley will show you how it's been done in his marriage of over fifty years--and in the marriages of the thousands of couples he's counseled. He'll explain the art of marital negotiation, show you how to resolve common conflicts the right way, and help you overcome these common obstacles:

emotional reactions are preventing calm discussion
neither of you wants to talk about an issue
one or both of you are indecisive
one of you is happy with the status quo
being enthusiastic about anything doesn't seem possible

And above all, he'll show you how every decision you make together will increase your love for each other.

Order your copy today!

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(2013, Hardcover - 192 pages)

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Very cool, just bought it right now for my Kindle. At only 192 pages, it's far smaller than some of his competing volumes!

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All - I have heard of groups / couples that go through Dr. H's books together at churches etc. It may have been a local group though, because I heard he visited them on the radio show.

Is there a study group of any kind that goes through the book together?

We have been reading ( and re-reading ) Draw close, and are reading through He Wins / She Wins for the first time.

I would love to go through it in a structured manner with others Either online or ??.

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Originally Posted By: Dr. Harley on the Private Forums


If either spouse is uncomfortable with the way a counselor is handling their problems, they should find another counselor. The entire message of my newest book, He Wins, She Wins is to find ways that both spouses can be enthusiastic about the way their relationship is turning out. This counselor is not achieving that objective for you. You are becoming victimized by this counselor. I would advise you to avoid any further sessions, and read He Wins, She Wins together.

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