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D Day was in 2009.
I Plan A-d for five months and went to Plan B.
I was in Plan B for two years and filed, as Dr. H suggested.
It took two and a half years for the divorce to complete.
2-27-2014, it was final.
I am a MB Survivor of an Affair.
I am still in Plan B and always will be, as long as the affair continues.
I am reasonably healthy and still have a wee bit of love for WH. I am parenting my three children virtually solo. They once in a blue moon speak or see their father. I have to say that, due to Plan B, I am doing okay. Otherwise, I would have been more of a mess.
My marriage did not survive but I did and I am incredibly proud of myself.
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Welcome to the club.
In the divorce section, we dont need to worry about spyware or maintaining NC between the cheating spouse and their affair partner...because we have eliminated that poison from our life!
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Yes, Jedi.
That is true!
The club is not so bad.........:)
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Yes, Jedi.
That is true!
The club is not so bad.........:) Its the best club in the forum!
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2 years of Pln B must have been trying.
I filed for divorce literally within one week of evidence of a Physical affair and was divorced 6 months later.
You must feel like a weight has lifted from your shoulders.
Did you celebrate?
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I do feel like I am released from purgatory in a way.
I didn't know for three weeks that I was divorced.
To 'celebrate', I told the children and we (the kids and I) hugged each other.
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I celebrated by having a bonfire and burning everything my ex ww gave me, allowing it to turn to smoke and rise into the heavens.
Is all of his stuff out of the home?
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My brothers had him come fetch his stuff a couple weeks ago.
What is left that I don't want is being garage sale(d) in a month.
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You are a MB success story, my friend. 
FWW/BW (me)
WH
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Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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You are a MB success story, my friend. x2!
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Congratulations, reading!!
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Congrats and I agree, a success story for sure! Not all happy endings involve recovering the marriage. You did great.
Age - 35
Divorce Final - 3/5/12
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Yes, Jedi.
That is true!
The club is not so bad.........:) Its the best club in the forum! x2. I went out dancing with all my friends when the divorce came through. Divorce party! I always thought they were macabre but now I get it. One thing I did was instruct my IM that I now no longer wanted to hear any news of reconcilliation should he 'come to'. I just told her to block him and say I didn't want to know and she should never tell me if he tried. I was long healed but the idea of a single childless woman considering a marriage to a cheating XH struck me as ludicrous. I realise your situation is different due to the children. I found it helped because that tiny part of me that was waiting stopped waiting when I told my IM to do this. My brothers had him come fetch his stuff a couple weeks ago.
What is left that I don't want is being garage sale(d) in a month. Redecorate if you haven't already  A whole new world!
What would you do if you were not afraid?
"Fear is the little death. Fear is the mind-killer" Frank Herbert.
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D Day was in 2009.
I Plan A-d for five months and went to Plan B.
I was in Plan B for two years and filed, as Dr. H suggested.
It took two and a half years for the divorce to complete.
2-27-2014, it was final.
I am a MB Survivor of an Affair.
I am still in Plan B and always will be, as long as the affair continues.
I am reasonably healthy and still have a wee bit of love for WH. I am parenting my three children virtually solo. They once in a blue moon speak or see their father. I have to say that, due to Plan B, I am doing okay. Otherwise, I would have been more of a mess.
My marriage did not survive but I did and I am incredibly proud of myself. Reading, I've not posted lately, but I saw your thread's subject line and I was concerned about you. I was glad to see that your post was positive and you are upbeat about the future that is ahead for you. I just wanted to tell you that I have always been impressed by your posts. You've done well, friend. Your children are lucky to have you as a mother. Well done, Reading, well done. 
D-Day 2-10-2009
Fully Recovered and Better Than Ever!
Thank you Marriage Builders!
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I am looking forward to joining this club soon.
Redecorating already in progress!
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D Day was in 2009.
I Plan A-d for five months and went to Plan B.
I was in Plan B for two years and filed, as Dr. H suggested.
It took two and a half years for the divorce to complete.
2-27-2014, it was final.
I am a MB Survivor of an Affair.
I am still in Plan B and always will be, as long as the affair continues.
I am reasonably healthy and still have a wee bit of love for WH. I am parenting my three children virtually solo. They once in a blue moon speak or see their father. I have to say that, due to Plan B, I am doing okay. Otherwise, I would have been more of a mess.
My marriage did not survive but I did and I am incredibly proud of myself. Congrats. You should be proud of yourself.
"Get busy living, or get busy dying"...... The Shawshank Redemption.
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BW - me
exWH - serial cheater
2 awesome kids
Divorced 12/2011
Many a good man has failed because he had a wishbone where his backbone should have been.
We gain strength, and courage, and confidence by each experience in which we really stop to look fear in the face... we must do that which we think we cannot.
--------Eleanor Roosevelt
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Thank you everybody for your replies.
I appreciate it!
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Reading,
I always appreciate the insight you bring to the forum, and I remember your thoughtful wisdom when you posted on my thread.
I am sorry your road has been so hard, and I'm sorry that your family has been broken up. I don't believe that a divorce is something to celebrate, but I do believe that you now have an opportunity to move forward with your life and you have showed remarkable dignity and wisdom dealing with the worst kind of adversity. You have come out of this a better person and are prepared to make your life fantastic.
As you stand at the crossroads, I wish you all the best.
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You are a Marriage Builders Success Story, reading.
Look back at your past 5 yrs.
You did everything possible to save & recover your marriage.
You held your head high and kept your dignity.
It doesn't always work to save the marriage but it does give you the pride in knowing you did all you could.
Here's to a wonderful future for you and your kids!
Dday- Feb 1998
Recovered!!
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