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Been married to my wife for 24 years.. She is 46 years old and we have son that is 19 years old. In the past 2 years.. she started wearing stretchy skinny jeans to work. Before that, she always worn regular fit jeans. But anyway when she first started buying those stretchy 2 years ago.. i ask her why you wearing those skin tight jeans to work ? Her response was.." You just jealous". I ask her because those jeans so tight you can see her panties lines. But she did tell me later because they felt comfortable to wear. Anyone know any reasons why someone would wear skin tight jeans to work, showing off their butt,legs, and panties lines ? Should i be concern ???
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Hi,
Been married to my wife for 24 years.. She is 46 years old and we have son that is 19 years old. In the past 2 years.. she started wearing stretchy skinny jeans to work. Before that, she always worn regular fit jeans. But anyway when she first started buying those stretchy 2 years ago.. i ask her why you wearing those skin tight jeans to work ? Her response was.." You just jealous". I ask her because those jeans so tight you can see her panties lines. But she did tell me later because they felt comfortable to wear. Anyone know any reasons why someone would wear skin tight jeans to work, showing off their butt,legs, and panties lines ? Should i be concern ???
thanks,
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i ask her why you wearing those skin tight jeans to work ? Her response was.." You just jealous". So if she knows you are "jealous" does she do this to torment you?? 
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Philip, you have a much bigger problem in your marriage than these jeans. The bigger issue is that your wife does not care about your feelings. Here is what Dr Harley says about this: Isn't it interesting how someone can miss the point that mutual care in marriage is the only kind of care that makes sense? When your husband tells you that he wants you to care for him by suffering so he can have what he wants, he doesn't understand that this expectation means that he doesn't care about you. And that's the point. I would get the book His Needs, Her Needs and sell her on the program, especially the policy of joint agreement. That would resolve this problem. But, you have to implement the entire program. It makes little sense in a piecemeal way.
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Philip, you have a much bigger problem in your marriage than these jeans. The bigger issue is that your wife does not care about your feelings. Here is what Dr Harley says about this: Isn't it interesting how someone can miss the point that mutual care in marriage is the only kind of care that makes sense? When your husband tells you that he wants you to care for him by suffering so he can have what he wants, he doesn't understand that this expectation means that he doesn't care about you. And that's the point. I would get the book His Needs, Her Needs and sell her on the program, especially the policy of joint agreement. That would resolve this problem. But, you have to implement the entire program. It makes little sense in a piecemeal way. Sorry Melody, I dont have clue what you talking about ? You trying to sell me a book or give me advice ? I was asking should i be concern my wife started wearing those jean to work.
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i ask her why you wearing those skin tight jeans to work ? Her response was.." You just jealous". So if she knows you are "jealous" does she do this to torment you?? I dont believe she trying to make me jealous. She isnt that type. I think she has other motive in wearing those jeans to work but i want to be sure.
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Philip, you have a much bigger problem in your marriage than these jeans. The bigger issue is that your wife does not care about your feelings. Here is what Dr Harley says about this: Isn't it interesting how someone can miss the point that mutual care in marriage is the only kind of care that makes sense? When your husband tells you that he wants you to care for him by suffering so he can have what he wants, he doesn't understand that this expectation means that he doesn't care about you. And that's the point. I would get the book His Needs, Her Needs and sell her on the program, especially the policy of joint agreement. That would resolve this problem. But, you have to implement the entire program. It makes little sense in a piecemeal way. Sorry Melody, I dont have clue what you talking about ? You trying to sell me a book or give me advice ? I was asking should i be concern my wife started wearing those jean to work. I am trying to give you advice. And the advice that we follow to resolve problems like this is found in that book. Yes, you should be concerned that your wife wears clothes to work even though she knows they make you uncomfortable.
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i ask her why you wearing those skin tight jeans to work ? Her response was.." You just jealous". So if she knows you are "jealous" does she do this to torment you?? I dont believe she trying to make me jealous. She isnt that type. I think she has other motive in wearing those jeans to work but i want to be sure. My point is that she believes your issue is that you are jealous yet she continues wearing them. I have no way of knowing her motive nor does it matter. What matters is how you feel about it.
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Did she recently start working out or losing weight?
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Did she recently start working out or losing weight? That's irrelevant. The point is he doesn't like her wearing them and so she shouldnot wear tthem . She needs to find a style of jeans that they both agree on
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That's irrelevant. The point is he doesn't like her wearing them and so she shouldnot wear tthem . She needs to find a style of jeans that they both agree on I think he thinks she is having an affair, or a flirtation a work. It's not simply that he does not like the jeans; he suspects her motives and he wants to know if any of us think the same.
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Did she recently start working out or losing weight? And that might be what Dvdman is getting at here. These are sometimes signs of an affair.
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I think she has other motive in wearing those jeans to work but i want to be sure.
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Do you have any spyware installed on her phone, computer, vehicle?
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Jeans with Lycra are much more comfortable than other jeans. There are panties that can be worn that do not show, if the issue is the panty lines?
If you are uncomfortable with the jean style, or you do not think your wife's body style looks attractive in the jeans...you should openly discuss other clothing that you find attractive on her. It's better to approach with clothing ideas you find her more attractive in.
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Loving, why did you open a thread that's last post was 7 months ago?
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