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Originally Posted by Jedi_Knight
If you keep having problems with FB I can show you how to get around the FB messages and send them very easily.
Have you been able to send the messages or do you need help?

Yes, I could use some help here. I want OM exposed to his family.


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Just state the truth on Cheaterville. This POS is having an affair with my wife. Right now it doesn't even say they are having an affair.

But you did get a response from someone who seemingly knows him, so that is good!

Keep your chin up Ax, you are doing good here and making a tremendous blow to this affair.

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Got it.


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Oh, and send the messages "return receipt requested" so you know if they read them or not

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Start with the last names, some relatives may have 50 "friends" with the last name..some such as OM may have only a handful.
But they are all related and good exposure targets

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wow, that works!! I just tested it.


"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

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JK,

Another trick is to look for woman who have the last name by marriage, will often put their maiden name in their facebook name. You can often find all of those in-law type relatives as well.

God Bless
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Anyone know how to edit the Cheaterville posts?


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Originally Posted by axslinger85
Anyone know how to edit the Cheaterville posts?

I don't believe you can do that. BUT you can easily add a comment in the reply section.


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What happened w FB exposure ??


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It's already done and his family is contacting me back asking me not to contact them again.

WW just called me for the first time in 2 weeks. VERY angry.

Claims this is only an EA, no PA. That she's been staying with friends and not OM. She was convincing in that regard but her conduct is still so suspect that I don't trust her.

Asked me to stop pressuring OM in exchange for showing her family where she's been staying and that it's not OM's house. Told her that even if it's EA, their relationship is inappropriate for both of them because she is married, and that I will continue to fight for her.

She said "well, I'm done and I'm done talking to you, and this is just pushing me away". She thinks I'm trying to destroy everything with her family by doing this and that it's a vengeance thing for me. Either she's lying or doesn't understand the concept of EA.

Thoughts?

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Axslinger,

Even if your WW does not come back to you, I doubt you will have to suffer seeing her with OM and the pain that would cause.

Should you end up dating if you divorce, this is a great story to tell your next partner and should scare away those with large cheating potentials.

You've stood up for yourself which is not the norm, the norm is for the betrayed spouse to hide away and carry the burden of their suffering alone, while maintaining the secrecy of the perpetrators.

I suspect that after your WWs mind clears she will see the OM as old and unattractive and will come back to you.

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She is lying. Don't fall for it. Just stick to your plan and keep up your exposures. Have you completed the Facebook exposures to the OMs contacts?

The purpose of the call was to scare you off from further damage to the OM. Don't let that happen.


"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

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And don't act like you believe the nonsense about the EA. It is a PA. Women don't leave their husbands for EAs. She has been sleeping with him this whole time.


"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

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She is lying.
All waywards lie, lie, lie. You will not believe she is the same woman.
The "this is pushing me away" line is classic wayward script, it is a guilt trip and proves that you hit the mark with exposure.

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Originally Posted by MelodyLane
She is lying. Don't fall for it. Just stick to your plan and keep up your exposures. Have you completed the Facebook exposures to the OMs contacts?

The purpose of the call was to scare you off from further damage to the OM. Don't let that happen.

FB exposures are done. Family, friends, etc. She's going to push back hard with the family and some of them are stammering about it but I think everyone knows by this point that something is amiss with her.

Yeah, I have no intention of being done with the OM. He's obviously getting angry about my work so far and I'm just getting started. Even if she wants to push this as an EA, that only makes my job easier if they haven't had sex yet. Nobody wants to watch their reputation get flushed down the toilet for an EA.


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Expose it at HIS work, that will be a devastating blow.

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Originally Posted by NebDane
Expose it at HIS work, that will be a devastating blow.

I dont think he has a job.
He sells waffles from a street cart

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Originally Posted by axslinger85
Anyone know how to edit the Cheaterville posts?

You will need to login and post a comment.
You can also post evidence after logging in

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Originally Posted by Jedi_Knight
Originally Posted by NebDane
Expose it at HIS work, that will be a devastating blow.

I dont think he has a job.
He sells waffles from a street cart

This made me laugh out loud. You guys are great. smile

The person on Cheaterville mentioned a storefront location, might check that out tomorrow. Not to confront, just to scout. I still need to recruit some "restrain me" personnel before I confront.

The more I think about it, the more it's hilarious to me that WW is the one trying to defend OM from my efforts and he's not doing it himself. Someday she will feel stupid about this because when she and I were dating I actually ran off one of her ex-boyfriends who was stalking her. Someday that contrast is going to register with her.

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Happily remarried to wonderful woman who I found using the guidelines in "Buyers, Renters, Freeloaders"
2 baby boys, working on #3 and couldn't ask for anything more.

When my ex's affair happened: BH 28, Ex-WW:29
Married: 7 years
Together: 8 years
D-day: 10/5/2014
D filed: 1/22/2015
D Final: 6/4/2015

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