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My sisters husband has been drinking, and also struggles with Pornography. She is frustrated and doesn't know what to do. What kind of advice should I give her? I think it is to the point that she wants to leave...
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Roughrock, send her Dr. Harley's When to Call it Quits series of articles. These introduce Plan B for her as a means of protecting herself that may induce her husband to reform if he wants to keep her, but will definitely protect her whether he chooses to or not.
It is extremely unlikely that she will not welcome advice if she is not soliciting it. Giving a book or an article can be a good way to give someone advice in a way that they can choose to accept or decline.
If you are serious about saving your marriage, you can't get it all on this forum. You've got to listen to the Marriage Builders Radio show, every day. Install the app! Married to my radiant trophy wife, Prisca, 19 years. Father of 8. Attended Marriage Builders weekend in May 2010 If your wife is not on board with MB, some of my posts to other men might help you.
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She would be helped by attending Alanon meetings for His drinking problem, because it is a Family Disease.
She will learn to not enable his poor decisions and allow him to live with his own consequences he creates, along with creating boundaries she can live with.
You can also speak with him about the drinking and pornography.
LTL
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FWW/BW (me)
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Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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