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#2846504 03/06/15 10:28 AM
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Hello,

I have reason to believe that my husband confessed to cheating on me on a website. The username of the author raised a red flag. When I read the post there were certain events that were very similar, and things that I have suspected happened in this specific trip. The author writes like my husband as well. There are a lot of similarities in this specific post which makes me believe that it is my husband. But, I don't have proof.

I confronted my husband and he denied. I contacted the moderator of the website, and they gave me the person's IP addresses that they were using, and the email they used to register on the website.

This person used CloudFire to hide their true IP address. They used 8 different IP addresses. I also have the email address they used to register their account.

My husband is a computer guy and knows how to hide his IP address. He creates software for computers. He is extremely smart.

My gut tells me this is him, but I have no proof. I am not sure what my options are.

Is there anyway that you can trace an email address? What about if the person uses fake IP addresses to hide their true IP address? I already paid for Spokeo to look up the reverse email address and that didn't work.

Is it common for people to hide their IP address when they post on these type of forums?

What are my options? Thank you!

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Originally Posted By: summer42

My gut tells me this is him, but I have no proof. I am not sure what my options are.


Always trust your gut. It is far more reliable than you think.

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Is there anyway that you can trace an email address? What about if the person uses fake IP addresses to hide their true IP address? I already paid for Spokeo to look up the reverse email address and that didn't work.


No, if he used a VPN to anonymise his address, you cannot trace it. However, people eventually slip up so keep watching.

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Is it common for people to hide their IP address when they post on these type of forums?


No idea how common it is but an IT guy would easily be able to do this. A VPN can be enabled by a mouse click.

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What are my options? Thank you!



Do not confront him, do not tell him you know anything as he will just take this further underground and start snooping. Let us know if you need help with this.


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Originally Posted By: summer42

My gut tells me this is him, but I have no proof. I am not sure what my options are.


I see that you have been here for a year and a half but I can't read your old posts. That is very concerning because it tells me you are no further along than this. If it were me, I would be demanding he come clean and pass a polygprah or I would separate. Living a life of secrets where you don't have the truth about your own life is a nightmare. It is a cruel and manipulative game you husband is playing.

Will he take a polygraph?


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I would give him a chance to give you every detail about his secret life and then pass a polygraph to verify he has told you the full truth. If he won't do that, then you have nothing here to save but a sick, destructive marriage that will ruin your emotional and physical health. This is no way to live.


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Originally Posted By: summer42

My gut tells me this is him, but I have no proof. I am not sure what my options are.


I see that you have been here for a year and a half but I can't read your old posts. That is very concerning because it tells me you are no further along than this.


Yes. frown


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