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I got an appointment with a LPC today. Is there anything specific that I should request. He did my in-processing a few weeks ago, but I wasn't really sure what I was looking for.
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if you listen to the radio clips by Dr Harley he explains what is necessary. It must be based on relaxation techniques in order to be successful.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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lots of great advice in this thread....
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Have you listened to the radio clips in Anger Management 101
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Yes, I listened to all the radio clips. I assumed there had to be more than just learning to relax.
Easier said than done, I suppose.
My counseling session today was somewhat helpful. But I am not sure that my counselor is experienced in teaching relaxation techniques, so I may need to look for another one. He kept talking about changing my perspective, and using "I" statements. So I tried to explain to him that the problem was me, and that I needed to learn how to relax before I could use "I" statements.
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Have you looked into buying a Galvanic skin response reader that Dr. Harley recommends?
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No, I will look into purchasing one today. I just noticed on your thread in 2015 you were going to buy one. Did you?
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Yes, I listened to all the radio clips. I assumed there had to be more than just learning to relax. That really is the main thing. And here is more of what you need to know: https://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi8122_neg.html
If you are serious about saving your marriage, you can't get it all on this forum. You've got to listen to the Marriage Builders Radio show, every day. Install the app! Married to my radiant trophy wife, Prisca, 19 years. Father of 8. Attended Marriage Builders weekend in May 2010 If your wife is not on board with MB, some of my posts to other men might help you.
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No, I will look into purchasing one today. I just noticed on your thread in 2015 you were going to buy one. Did you? Not purchasing and using GSR meter is one way I can tell when a man isn't serious. So I'm curious: did you buy one in 2015? If not, have you bought one now? If you did buy one back then, do you still have it? If you have one, have you ever used the thing?
If you are serious about saving your marriage, you can't get it all on this forum. You've got to listen to the Marriage Builders Radio show, every day. Install the app! Married to my radiant trophy wife, Prisca, 19 years. Father of 8. Attended Marriage Builders weekend in May 2010 If your wife is not on board with MB, some of my posts to other men might help you.
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I assumed there had to be more than just learning to relax. Why?
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I assumed there had to be more than just learning to relax. Why? Why are you looking for more to do if you haven't even done this?
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I was doing a fair job at controlling my temper, but I did relapse a couple of times. This is sugar coating the problem. You weren't doing a "fair job" if you "relapsed." In fact, "relapsed" is a poor choice of a word. It minimizes what you did. You didn't relapse. You abused your wife. You. Abused. Your. Wife. Then that afternoon she texted me and said she can't do this anymore, she was leaving and that it is over.
She took the car, packed her bags, and left me at work that afternoon. Good for her. If you want to make this right, you are going to have to stop weeping and begging. You will need to get to work. Get a GSR meter. Call Dr. Harley.
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GSR Meter ordered. It will be here tomorrow.
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GSR Meter ordered. It will be here tomorrow.  Do this, too. Send Dr. Harley an email on his radio show and go on the show. (Just think, if you'd been listening to the show every day since you were first here you would be such an expert by now. I had to listen to Dr. Harley talk about anger dozens of times before I was finally persuaded that I had to actually stop having angry outbursts. Let him persuade you!)
If you are serious about saving your marriage, you can't get it all on this forum. You've got to listen to the Marriage Builders Radio show, every day. Install the app! Married to my radiant trophy wife, Prisca, 19 years. Father of 8. Attended Marriage Builders weekend in May 2010 If your wife is not on board with MB, some of my posts to other men might help you.
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GSR Meter ordered. It will be here tomorrow. Then what?
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I need to call Dr. Harley.
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I need to call Dr. Harley. When do you plan on doing that?
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I am trying to figure out who I should be calling. Am I calling Steve Harley to set up a counseling appointment. Or am I calling Dr. Harley on the Radio Program?
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Email Dr. Harley
Email your questions to Joyce Harley at mbradio@marriagebuilders.com. When your email question is chosen to be answered on the radio show, you will be notified by email directing you to listen to the rebroadcast. If you would like to consider being a caller, include your telephone number. You will be called by us to explain the procedure to you. Every caller will receive a complementary book by Dr. Harley that addresses their question.
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