Every once in awhile we all need a reminder about the importance of undivided attention to our spouses. Life gets busy and before we know it we don't give the time that's needed to nurture the marriage.

My wife and I recovered our marriage 3 years ago. We had hit rock bottom and divorced. We got back together and promised to apply MB principles. We applied them and got our marriage back on track better than ever. You've heard the story before.

And then this year we started slipping. My wife and I have demanding jobs and we have two daughters. I coach my daughter's basketball team. Time together took a big hit, just like it did in the past. Different result this time though. My wife has been very good because she complains readily when we are not giving time to each other. In the past, she would have just been quiet and let resentment creep in. That's what happened when our marriage fell apart. I neglected and she accepted. But not this time around. Now she complains, and I listen. The goal is for no one to complain, of course.

To get back on track, we've taken two weekend trips away recently, and we've established evening "appointments." By just hitting the re-set button and making time together a priority we are back again to a passionate and romantic relationship.

We say here that "feelings follow actions." With UA time is mathematical. It works. You just have to plan it out.

Thanks Just. It is so true. The good news is that once we establish good habits, we can figure out how to get back on the wagon.It is a formula that works!