Again, you keep searching for a reason to find that your serial-cheating WW is somehow different than any other WW. (and therefore, these plans do not apply to your situation) And I am here to tell you...She's NOT!

My ex WH (serial cheater) I have known since childhood (3rd grade) and one of the things I always liked about him was his kindness and emphathy. He always told me how much he abhored cheating. He was a pretty great father and husband for 10+ years.

However once he got a taste of having a SSL and getting his needs met by random women, he was hooked and having opportunity to chat and flirt w/women, he was ripe for more affairs.

Add in to the mix that your WW likes to sext with strangers online, which has become so easy to do with all these new apps, it is very easy to see how this happened "now" as opposed to before.

Whoa, Buddy, you're going to have to work on those disrespectful judgements if you're going to have any chance of recovery.

But, first things first. How's the exposure work going? This is your priority. There is a plan here that can help you recover (yes, even with her), but you got to take this first step.

We already told you and it's all over this site.
#1 - exposure
#2 - should you move to recovery phase (which you can't even consider without step #1) then you implement EPs (extraordinary precautions) and set up a lifestyle where sexting and running off to Vegas to have sex with random strangers becomes impossible.

I am puzzled about this too, Nick.

You already told us that she separated, blaming it all on you and then you went back and found in the phone records that she was already cheating. Why does it matter she talked to OM3, 4 or 5 on Sunday?

She's a serial cheater. Why are you wasting time on these kinds of meaningless details??

People who are living a double life and having an affair (never mind serial cheating) often are depressed or behave bi-polar. BSs often come here thinking their wayward spouse has psychological issues and are "different". They're not.

You still follow the plans - then you make your decision LATER.

Nick, I see this as stonewalling and looking for a reason not to expose. It's scary and it sucks. I know it too well - but if you're looking for some magic post that's going to make you feel better about exposing....it's probably not going to happen.

You're just going to have to push thru the fear and do what I believe you know in your heart is your best chancing at saving this marriage.

Nick, how is your exposure going? I see you wasting a lot of valuable time blogging but it is not helping the situation. What is your progress on exposures?

Well I signed into her iCloud today to see what I could find. And my wife just sent me a text message asking me if I signed into her iCloud today. How should I proceed?

I think she might be on to me about the snooping.

Expose!

I don't have everything in front of me right now. I'm at work. I'm not sure what I should tell her.

Nothing. Wait until you can expose.

When do you plan to expose? I am starting to see that you don't take this very seriously since it has dragged out all week with absolutely no progress. IT looks like we take this much more seriously than you and that is a problem, my friend.

It's not that I don't take it seriously, I do. I'm just nervous and scared.

I'm going to have to tell her something when I get home and she asks me again.

Doing nothing because you are "scared" means you are not taking this seriously. It is time to buck up here and get to work. You don't have the luxury of sitting around doing nothing because you are too "scared."

You have been here for days and are no further along than when you arrived. A lot of board members took their own personal time to post to you. If you don't take the advice, you are wasting our time.

That's NORMAL.

But what is also NORMAL is to push thru the fear and do what is necessary to end the affair/s vs wringing your hands and obsessing about x, y and z regarding your WW, while she continues talking/sexting/meeting with random men from the internet.

Wringing your hands and obsessing about what your WW thinks about your snooping is not only just weird (when you are dealing with her current serial cheating) but it does NOTHING to help your situation.

Who cares what she thinks? You have bigger problems to deal with (her affairs and likely breakdown of your family)

Ugh, after reading through her most recent Facebook messages...I feel like a horrible person.

She was talking to one of her friends and she kept calling herself fat to which she responded by saying,

"Well I'm sorry that I had a verbally abusive husband who burnt it into my head for so many years."

Then she said the following,

"No, he just screwed up my brain. He literally put me down so low and bad that I started letting myself believe him, now I'm all screwed up. I don't want to feel this way. I just can't help it. It's embedded into my brain."

I feel terrible, maybe I am responsible...I don't know what to say. I'm crying right now over this, maybe I don't deserve her.

Maybe you just need to expose. Now.

Crying and getting emotional gets you nowhere. Exposure is your first step towards recovery.

Do you want to recover or do you want to suffer?

Did you expose the affair?

This isn't a blog for the ramblings of your WW. A wayward playing victim is NORMAL.

Letting her continue her alley-catting around and wrecking your family is only going to make life harder for her.

You need to address with exposure with us. That's the only thing that's going to improve this situation. Where are you at?

My wayward ex-husband also was abusive, dishonest and wrecked me emotionally when he cheated on me, tricked me into a false recovery for 3 years...just to crush me again.

I have NEVER used his abuse to justify bad behavior.

Are we done with the distractions yet?

When will you be exposing?