I found a smart phone app that really helps spark great conversations with my spouse so I wanted to tell everyone here.

Turns out, there are several "conversation starter" smart phone apps. I got one called Beyond Small Talk. It has categories you can pick from (new friends, travel companions, close friends, etc.)

I've seen people post that they have trouble having conversations with their spouse during UA time and that has certainly been an issue for me. Intimate Conversation is a top EN of mine, but I had become so convinced my H is not interested in anything I have to say that I struggled to have a conversation just to have a conversation, even though I see he's really trying now. It seemed we either quickly slipped into love busters or just staring blankly at each other.

At first my H expressed irritation that I was asking him questions from my phone. But then when I pulled my phone out he started saying "OK, ask your stupid little questions." Then he started showing some interest in my answers to the questions too.

(I try to always practice Dr. Harley's rules for good conversation - which can be challenging when you're both prone to DJs, but it's much easier when you have a benign topic handed to you.)

The last time we went out for happy hour just the two of us, we started using the questions and ended up totally laughing and having a great time over some of the topics.

Now we only use it occasionally but it's great to know it's there as a fall back if conversation stalls or just for fun.

I find it so helpful I wanted to share in hopes that it helps others.

Thanks!!!

Thanks for sharing this idea!