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Originally Posted by Dex
...add in factors like my wife's friend being extremely unstable, wafts in and out of depression, is in a polyamorous relationship/s that aren't/isn't really working and isn't entirely trustworthy.
It is the wife's friend - the woman whose boyfriend rang Dex - who is in a polyamorous relationship. Presumably, that means that "Steve", her boyfriend is, also.

It's irrelevant to Dex's situation, but it means "loving many" - i.e swinging and open relationships.


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Originally Posted by SugarCane
Originally Posted by Dex
...add in factors like my wife's friend being extremely unstable, wafts in and out of depression, is in a polyamorous relationship/s that aren't/isn't really working and isn't entirely trustworthy.
It is the wife's friend - the woman whose boyfriend rang Dex - who is in a polyamorous relationship. Presumably, that means that "Steve", her boyfriend is, also.

It's irrelevant to Dex's situation, but it means "loving many" - i.e swinging and open relationships.

Thanks SC.

I read that as his wife's friend as in the OM, since he considers this to be his wife's friend.

You are right that it is irrelevant smile

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Originally Posted by unwritten
I disagree about warning OM's wife, I think you need to snoop FIRST and get the facts. Otherwise, you will be tipping them off to your snooping, as well as bringing a theory to his wife that you have no proof to substantiate.

I do understand what you are saying MrWondering, I just think there are risks with going that route without getting the proof FIRST.

You mentioned OM is in a polyamorous relationship, I don't know what that means.

Yeah, I kind of forgot to say try the VAR for few days first and try to get what you can and if you seem to be hearing nothing you may want to provoke some reactions like I suggested.



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Originally Posted by unwritten
I read that as his wife's friend as in the OM, since he considers this to be his wife's friend.
The reason that I think it is the woman best friend is because Dex was unsure whether to trust the information for several reasons, one of which was because the best friend, who told her boyfriend "Steve", was unstable etc.



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