1) get your intel.
2) FULL exposure. As you've discovered, if you miss a target the addiction goes to the very place you tried to spare. Not telling kids = affairs around the kids.

After you've done the basics, you can assess whether recovery is worth your while.

But the basic stuff of figuring out the landscape needs doing for you and your kids urgently.


What would you do if you were not afraid?

"Fear is the little death. Fear is the mind-killer" Frank Herbert.