Melodylane -
Yes I agree he is having emotional affairs. He is definitley missing the strong foundation in his life of love and support. His mother died when he was 7 and he was raised by an Aunt & Uncle who kicked him out of their home when he turned 19. He experienced an early marriage that ended in divorce and a long child custody battle. He is very bitter.
We have only been married 10 months, #3 for me, #2 for him. There are children involved 9, 12 & 15 (the oldest-his son is a huge problem with behavoir, anger management, etc). Also, we are dealing with a child support issue with my ex. Needless to say we have a lot on our plate for the 1st year of marriage. I adore this man and have never loved anyone this way in my life. I am 48 years old and do not want to go through another failed relationship. He seems to turn to this type of behavoir when things get stressful for him (no excuse) and believe me things have been tough. I am at a loss as to how to get him to open up to me. I have tried lots of love, patience and attention. I do not understand why he resorts to this. As of today I have figured out his hotmail password and I have access to his email - so I can access it at anytime. I'm just afraid that the ball is going to drop on me again.
I have read the information on Plan A & B and think that so far there technically has been no infidelity, however I feel that he has still been "unfaithful" to me. He is communciating with an old girlfriend and told her he was off the market and had gotten married to a nice city girl. This is the only email lately that I have seen that was somewhat questionable. He is totally unaware of my access to his email.
I have become a suspious, spying, ugly person because of this and I hate it. I have no idea what to do except to keep spying on him and I do not like being put in this position. ????????