So? We are caring? Don't go to the adulterer for marriage advice. Heavens!
Oh good grief
Wow.
Seriously stop talking to her!
, I feel like I am being very punitive if I try to contact HR unilaterally. thing. .
Seriously? She's having the affair, at WORK but you're the bad guy in your version. Ohhh kayyyy
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,However, if my marriage does not work out, my WW will need to rely on her position.
This is a touchingly naive screw up of priorities...
Wayward are typically unable to hold down employment or friendships or respect anywhere healthy as their behaviours and selfishness grow. Your wife's only real shot is you.
You're partially right. I just can't get past the feeling that I am trying to control her life by contacting HR.-
I'll bet my pay cheque that a) this lady has called you controlling many, many times and that b) you typically have zero say in anything. The word 'controlling' is on page one of the female wayward handbook and she's been wayward quite a while. You've probably heard it daily.
Look, you don't control HR. They will decide whether they have an issue here or not. You don't control whether WW has been a good enough employee or not a good employee. She does.
(Spoiler: it's not a good employee).
The only thing you control is whether you're cool standing on the sidelines watching a flagrant workplace affair take down your life. IT IS OK TO CONTROL YOUR OWN REACTIONS AND DECISIONS WHEN BEING ATTACKED BY SOMETHING LIKE THIS.
I for one would LOVE to see you take control.
WW even told me her actions are just as bad as his.
Remember when we said: hey be sure to get the opinion of the adulterers because that will be super useful? No that didn't happen did it?
NO ONE CARES WHAT SHE SAYS OR THINKS.
We already knew this. Stop posting and GET TO WORK.
X1000 The handwringing is super embarrassing. Be as pleasant as you like while you expose and refuse to take any more [censored]. But for God's sake do it. And YES do it nuclear style. I want to be able to see the sparks from the bomb from here.