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I had some trouble picking apart and making sense of what you were saying, and what you are asking. Is the following summary correct?
It was a piece that I wasn’t open in discussing because I wanted to deal with it on my own it’s from my last relationship.
What does "it was a piece" mean? Are you saying that you have a financial debt that stems from your last relationship?
I was in the room which I knew he could possibly hear and I was discussing about the debt situation. I got off the phone and went out o see him. He said when we’re you going to tell me? I told him I planned tonight. His point that when he had asked me a question that I had opportunities to tell him and I have not given him all the information. If he were to think of today to marry his mind isn’t there, we can’t get married he said till it’s done.
Are you saying that you were discussing the debt on the phone with someone else, and your fiancé overheard and became upset that you hadn't told him about this?
I am healing from that I have a partner that I upset and he thinks of me as a liar. (It wasn’t my intentions of hiding it, only recently that I said I’m feeling comfortable to talk about finances) His affection reduced and last request from me of his interruption and his tone to be gentle when I am answering, I don’t have a problem of him asking questions. His response was that it’s a two way street.
I have 4 kids and my thought process is that I would like to not talk about anything to do with finances, kids, or marriage or anything in the future. Till I get the finances all straighten out. I would want us to have fun and enjoy each other. I wouldn’t want to have him around the kids either until we know that we are solid and feel safe to avoid them being attached and if he decides I don’t fill his needs.
He fill my needs but there is withdrawal of love units. He is a caring man and priorities are of us. He repeats that he wants to work it out and he wants to be with me. He communicated that he feels I am pulling away from him and he shared his perspective that full custody up ahead he would like to spend time with each other in the evenings.
This is difficult to understand, but I think you're saying that he has been less affectionate and warm towards you since he found out about the debt. You have asked him to be kinder, and he has said "it's a two-way street". His distrust of you since he found out about the debt is affecting your feelings for him.
Am I exaggerating of my solution of where I am?
I don't understand that last sentence. Could you say it in a different way?
I don't really know what you're asking from us, but it seems to me that this is very hard work for a relationship that is only 4 months old.
How old are you both? Has either of you been married before? How old are your kids? Does he have children? What did you mean about "full custody up ahead"?