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#3007513 01/15/19 10:17 PM
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Didn't want to keep updating my old affair/divorce thread. I guess it might make it easier for some to follow/catch up, but that all feels like a million years ago.

Happily remarried, just barely past our 1 year anniversary. Got a baby boy on the way, arrives in March. God is good, and life has changed fast. Seems like it can do that both ways, as so many here know.

My wife ordered "His Needs, Her Needs for Parents" for us for Christmas and we are cutting our teeth on that right now. We gave our regular copy of His Needs, Her Needs to my niece and her husband as a wedding gift, told them it's the book I wished I could send back in time to myself. Really great stuff.

Thanks to all here who gave of their time to counsel me over the years and to Dr. Harley for the wisdom. My wife and I practice POJA and PORH (radical honesty) always and it's amazing how many problems it solves, and how much we learn about how to better take care of each other. I feel like we are crazier about each other today than when we met over 2 years ago, and that's the exact opposite of how my first marriage felt!


Happily remarried to wonderful woman who I found using the guidelines in "Buyers, Renters, Freeloaders"
2 baby boys, working on #3 and couldn't ask for anything more.

When my ex's affair happened: BH 28, Ex-WW:29
Married: 7 years
Together: 8 years
D-day: 10/5/2014
D filed: 1/22/2015
D Final: 6/4/2015

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Congratulations!! Life moves on......


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So nice to hear the wonderful update ax. Thanks for sharing. It's always nice to hear the fantastic stories. dance2


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Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.



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That's great, ax! Congratulations on the baby!


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felicidades, se logra gracias a ese bebe que viene en camino


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Just checking in, a friend of the family going through infidelity ringer right now and of course it made me think of MB. We're doing everything we can to help and have recommended MB.

Baby boy came in 3/2019 and is doing well, we got a second 10/2020 and are going to start working here in a few months on #3. Guess I'll have to update my signature.

I can't believe the difference MB has made in my life, it's such a gigantic shortcut for relationship wisdom. I buy a copy of His Needs, Her Needs for every newlywed couple in my social circle and Buyers, Renters, Freeloaders for my younger relatives on the dating market. I've had people come back and thank me for getting them the books and even suggest getting them for other couples we both know.

I hope that's encouragement for those who are discouraged. I've scaled challenges with my wife that I couldn't have even imagined with my ex because of POJA and RH. You use this system right and you begin to look forward to the hard discussions and negotiation because you learn so much about your partner and it builds so much on your foundations of the marriage. I don't even worry about that stuff because I've generally found "me + wife" comes up with way better ideas than "me vs wife", you just have to get your pride out of the way.

This place doesn't get the traffic it used to from what I see, maybe Google being unfriendly. I'd love to help any way I can with boosting the site, it's a beacon of light in an ocean of bad advice out here on the Web.


Happily remarried to wonderful woman who I found using the guidelines in "Buyers, Renters, Freeloaders"
2 baby boys, working on #3 and couldn't ask for anything more.

When my ex's affair happened: BH 28, Ex-WW:29
Married: 7 years
Together: 8 years
D-day: 10/5/2014
D filed: 1/22/2015
D Final: 6/4/2015

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Thank you so much for coming back and giving an update. It is so nice to see what a wonderful MB life you're enjoying. Congratulations on the little ones!


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Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.




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