Your custody result is close to ideal; no payments mean no conflicts.
I am not sure about the payments. The children's lawyer said that has not been dealt with and it will be dealt with as part of assets. assets is what is left. it looks like one if us has to pay child support.
If she is living there now and the house cannot be divided, it will need to be sold. Then ask for the amount of 'free' rent to be deducted from the proceeds before dividing the remainder amount 50:50. You don't want to own 60% of the house your ex wife is living in, that would be a terrible mess. She would owe you rent that she would never pay.
She wants to sell the house. Dividing the house will be hard consider how this divorce has been very acrimonious not that actually a good idea. I do not think she will want to divide considering how she has treated me.
Fantastic idea to ask the free rent from proceeds before division. I will be on it.
The fact that the money is in the US is very helpful. Find a lawyer through your local Bar - you are in NYC if I recall and they are excellent. In the meantime pull together all the records you have that show the movement of money out of marital savings and where it went. You will probably need to subpoena destination bank records, that is not expensive but if the money is in another state you may need a local lawyer.
The money is in another state. Do I subpoena a bank or the brother and hiw wife(the receipients)? About 2.5 years ago my previous lawyer subpoenaed WW's brother and his wife. They did not respond which means they do not want to return the money back. Thecbrither even write to me saying I should not send him any more subpoenas but I have the records that they received the funds. I will still subpoena them anyway if that is what I have to do. That said I was thinking that I expose WW, her brother and wife - the later two are partners in crime with WW. Who should be the exposure targets? The exposure targets I had in mind are:
1. Friends and family of the brother and his wife.
2. Her friends and family of WW
3. the company her brother works for
4. the company her brother's wife works for
5. the company(and HR) WW works for
6. Letter asking her brother and wife to return the funds.
What do you think?