My fience and I have been together for about 2 yrs now. May of 2000 he asked me to marry him and I was estatic. We have been planning our wedding for the last 8 months but unfortunately he has his moments where he tells me he is not ready to get married then he will tell me to do more with the plans. He has openly told me what is going with him and he says it scares him, he is afraid of divorce. I have been divorced and I have 3 children who he loves dearly, his parents also divorced when he was little. Now he tells me he doesn't know when he will be ready for marriage and I dont know what to do. I love him with all my heart but he has done things in the past that have really made me wonder if things will ever work out and today I asked him if I am the one he wants to marry but he didnt know how to reply to that, does anyone have any advise for me, our wedding date is May 19, 2001 so it is comming up fast. I am so confused.

ok why did he ask you to marry him if he is not ready.<BR>and you cant really compare one marriage to another...sure his parents may have got divorced but that doesnt mean he will either<P>marriage is somethign between 2 people<P>is it possible for you to postpone the wedding until he is sure?

Thank you for your reply. He was going to Seattle for about 6 months to do some studying with a loser friend who had at that time recently moved there. He is very close to his grandparents and the three of us sat him down and talked. He said that he asked me at that time because he didnt want to lose me and wanted me to be here when he got back, pretty lame huh. Anyways, in the past few days we have done alot of talking and he has decided that he loves me unconditionally and wants to get married as planned. We are going to be starting premarital counseling at my church on the 11th and it goes for 20 weeks so that will be right up to the wedding day! We are very very happy together he just needed to realize for himself that what happens to everyone else has no bearing on our relationship.