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We're moving this over from the divorce forum. This is a more apprpiate place for it. Anyone whoo would like to join in just let us know.

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Every Wed. we are to pray and fast for one another. Every Weds we can check in and let everyone know we have prayed for the group. Prayer does mighty things and group prayer is even better.

I think it will be great to see how God works in our lives and heals our marriages and us. If you want to pray with us I will be more than happy to add your name to the list below.

Prayer Warriors who are praying and being prayed for: cajunky,Ezra, Willgetthruthis, Godisincontrol, Natasha79, JohnC, c++_guy, Wallace, relady, steadfast and committed, morriggs,lupolady, stillwaiting, Broken Hearted, PasDeDeux, hopeful_person,GinnyF, Not peachy in Ga, cry2much,SNL,LostAgain(Dave&April), Dodger, gloriachu, LoveNcare,JMF,WEN, NiteHawk, Absurd, LetSTry,AgainsttheWind,cemmerson, getting better,kellidiane,Terrified, BeeLee,idostylin, Resilient, thiscantbehappening, day by day, Jloves, broken x3, Sue with Hope, sunrise1, shepette, Malc, Faithfulwife, timbo-e, Angelia, FeelingAllAlone, broken_joe, dopey, awake, truly a friend, Is it to late, stilltryingtosaveit, landslide, GODBLESSU, vega, LoyalWarrior, janna-m-r, ferbie, epiphOny, simmy, cajeanie, d_rose, lost_lonely, briank4775, mayflower, Caged_Bird, LunaDove, goldielocks109, darwud, Mrs. darwud, adamv, Army Hubby, Gail (mojodiva)& Shane, bonnie five & H, TryingToKeepHope, Hopeful98, lghoping, SoTired (Mike & Trish), evega, Douglas and Kirsi Nielson, Jessicafl27, kimmy2, auntielala, weezy8550, miserynmissouri, STBXWife, sealfan, Jen Brown, LunaDove, SMIAJ, cinderella, day by day, GreggC, trying_to_accept, solon, sernitydipity, ilia, lonejrock, anchorhugger, Prayer & Patience,

Prayers Answered: Lupolady(air conditioner), Steadfastandcommitted (first string again), cry2much(sucessful surgery), Movingonwithlife(Wife coming home), WGTT(accepted into mentor program), betrayed and desparate (sucessful cancer surgery), Againstthewind (Got job), Free (Marriage Restoration begun ), cajunky (wife not engaged & did something with family, told me she loved me), Stillwaiting (neice is o.k.), Stillwaiting(Got to see her husband for 2 hours and his heart seems to have softened), Steadfastandcommitted (wife gave up other man), janna-m-r (Husband came home and wants to try to restore marriage even though he is the BS), tsc (marriage being restored), Faithfulwife (GOT A JOB, Found a house, D is final and got a puppy that “just LOVES me”), d_rose (got a ways to go but we are going there together.), WGTT (WH coming home),

Thank you everyone that prayed with us and also all of you that gave a praise report. Like many of you all, I like to see the praises to answered prayer. It is a blessing to hear how God is working and helping people get through tough times.

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One of the things we've been doing has been to post things that may help us pray for our spouses. Lately I've been posting the prayers from "Power of a Praying Husband" and lupolady has been posting prayers from "Power of a Praying Wife" as well as other things that we've felt might encourage others.

Here is chapter 7 of Power of a praying Husband. Bless you all.

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HER PRIORITIES

Your wife is constantly on trial. Or at least she can often feel that way. She will be silently indicted if she is not active in the church, school, neighborhoof, and community.

If she is employed, this further complicates things because there is an unspoken ordinance that says she must serve notice to the rest of her life that her job takes precedence. Above all, she will be held accountable to be a great wife, daughter, friend, and neighbor. And if she fails at even one of the above, she will be put on trial and judged on circumstantial evidence by a not-so-impartial jury. During all the time she spends on any one of these priorities, she worries that she is recklessly endangering the others. She can sometimes feel she has to daily prove her innocence, or else she must plead guilty and suffer the consequences. She has the prosecutor of her soul forever providing expert witnesses of her failure.

No matter how much a wife contributes to the family income, she will still be held responsible if her children don't do well socially or academically.

Another great pressure on a woman is that of creating and maintaining a pleasant, inviting, clean, attractive, nurturing, safe, haven of a home for the family. A woman feels insecure about her ability to create a comfortable and inviting home, or she has limited time and finances to do it, the home then becomes a source of unending pressure.

The bible says it's futile to try to establich a home without asking GOD to build it. He will lighten our load if we yoke up with Him in all that we do.

YOUR WIFE DESPERATELY NEEDS YOUR PRAYERS.

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Lord, I lift up (wifes name) to You today and ask that You would be in charge of her life. Show her how to seek You first in all things, and to make time with You her first priority every day. Give her the wisdom to know how to effectively divide her time, and then make the best use of it. Show her the way to prioritize her responsibilities and interest and still fulfill each role she has to her fullest. Show her how to find a good balance between being a wife, being a mother, running a home, working at a job, serving in the church and community, and finding the time for herself so that she can be rested and refreshed. Release her from the guilt that can weigh her down when these things get out of balance. In the midst of all that, I pray that she will take time for me without feeling she is neglecting other things. Give her the energy and the ability to accompish all she needs to do, and may she have joy in the process.

Lord, I pray that You would help (wifes name) to make our home a peaceful sanctuary. Regardless of our financial state, give her the wisdom, energy, strength, vision, and clarity of mind to transform our dwelling into a beautiful place of refuge that brings joy t o each of us. I ask You to lift from her the burden of caring for our home and give her peace about it. Show me how I can encourage and assist her in that.

Holy Spirit, I invite YOU to fill our home with Your peace ,truth,love, and unity. Keep it safe, and let no one enter our home who is not brought here by You. Through wisdom let our houde be built, and by understanding may it be established. By Knowledge may the rooms be filled with all precious and pleasnt riches(Proverbs 24:3,4). Reveal to us anything that is in our house that is not glorifying to You, Lord. I say that "as for me and my house, we will serve the LORD(Joshua 24:15).

Give (wifes name) the grace to handle the challenges she faces each day, and the wisdom to not try to do more than she can. Teach her to clearly recognize what her priorities should be, and enable her to balance them well.

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Can you please change my name on the list from Sorto98 to Hopeful98? Thanks.

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Was that "Hopeful98?" or "Hopeful98". Jus' kidding. I'll take care of it for you.

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Hi, just wanted to check in this week and let everyone know that I will be praying tomorrow for all your requests.

In my own case, I feel that I have some very bad news and will need all your prayers this week.

I have been praying for a year that God would restore my M and that my Wh would leave OW and come home. We have been separated by 800 miles this whole time and he has been living w/OW.

I just found out because WH's father made a blunder and said something to one of my family members, who followed up and it is true. My Wh and OW had a baby on July 3rd, and he is reportedly very excited about the new baby.

Now, we are still legally M, and I find that I cannot believe anything that WH has said to me. He let me continue to write him love letters and cards and tell him how much I loved him and wanted him to come home and make our M work, and never said one word to me the whole time about OW being pregnant. What would possess him to do this? His mother said that he wanted to keep it a secret, and they were just respecting his wishes. Why keep it a secret?

I feel now that I have no other choice but to file for D, but I also feel that this is so wrong, I don't want a D. It is obvious that he was just using my cards and letters to get his EN's filled while she was pregnant, and I would expect now that they have a new baby, that he will stay with her.

He didn't even call to tell me. I just can't explain in words how this makes me feel. I haven't spoken to him since I found out and I just don't know if I will be able to for a long time.

Please pray for me. I'm really confused. I was so sure that God would answer my prayers for my M, because I wanted so much to obey God's will and I wanted to so much to not lose my M and have our family destroyed like this.

Is there ever any hope for a M when this happens?
Right now, I have lost all hope.

Please pray for us. Thanks.

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I will definitely pray for you. I'm sorry <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />

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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"><strong>I will definitely pray for you. I'm sorry <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />

</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Me, too, Cajeanie.......

Remember, GOD can use anything for His own Will and YOUR best interest! Continue to trust in Him, and lean on Him, especially now.

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The following taken from a message sent to me this week from Rejoice Ministries....

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">WHO ARE YOU LISTENING TO?

"Let us not give up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but let us encourage one another-and all the more as you see the Day approaching." Hebrews 10:25

On this Sunday morning, we pray that every reader of this message can be found in a New Testament church where the Word of God will be
proclaimed by a pastor who is being led by the Holy Spirit. Your pastor must be preaching Jesus Christ, and His, death, burial, and resurrection, as the only way to receive eternal life. You should be hearing about the shed blood of Jesus. Your pastor must be declaring
the eternal life that Jesus provides for all who confess their sin, repent, and believe in Him, as well as the eternal damnation of the soul of those who reject Jesus.

Your church, as well as every New Testament church, must have a burden for the lost. It must have a missionary effort, for people around the
world, as well as a concern for the lost who live right down the block. There is more to church that simply making the people who are
already there feel good. E.V. Hill, a minister known to many of us who recently graduated to glory said, "Jesus calls us to be fishers of
men, not keepers of the aquarium."

The gospel message is confrontational. It causes people to face their sin--and to be convicted to deal with it. At times the Good News is uncomfortable to each of us. When the Spirit-led pastor preaches a sermon that "steps on our toes," it usually means they needed stepping on. If you are attending a church, week after week, and hearing more articles on current events than the Word of God, more numorous stories than prayer, more about civics than Christ, you need to be seeking God's will regarding your church home.

Here is the acid test for your church home: If your prodigal spouse attended your church today, would the one you love be confronted with gospel truths during the sermon, or could they walk out the door unchanged, with no conviction of their sin-sick soul? If you are seriously standing and praying for a wayward mate, you must be in a
church where lives are regularly being changed through the power of Jesus Christ. Do you hear often about answered prayer at your church?
If not, how can you be anticipating your largest prayer being answered by the return of your mate to the Lord and to you?

Saturday's testimonies featured one from my friend, David. His prodigal wife was suddenly drawn back to their church, by the Holy Spirit, after a six month absence. At the end of the sermon, as David's pastor "drew the net" and extended the gospel invitation, the wife responded for prayer. Was anyone shocked? After all, the entire church family had been praying for this wife for some time. When I
read David's email, I thought, "That is a church functioning as a New Testament church should!"

I confess that a lot of what I learned in Bible College twenty years ago has been forgotten. There is one comment from my New Testament
professor, old Dr. Allen, that I will never lose. He told us preacher boys, "Every sermon you preach must answer the question for every one
there, 'What did he preach that will help me make it through this next week?" I have both knowingly and unknowingly applied that test to
hundreds of Sunday morning sermons that I have heard down through the years.

The very reason that divorce recovery classes are so prevalent in Bible-believing New Testament churches is the heart of pastors to help the hurting make it through another week, and such classes seem, on the surface, an easy way to do that. There is good news, dear stander,
because the tide is turning toward marriage restoration!

Thirteen plus years ago, when Rejoice Marriage Ministries was birthed, seldom were "restored marriages" spoken of. Consider how often today,
from the church pulpit and from radio and television ministers, we hear references to restored marriage. It is commonplace to meet
people with restored marriage. Praise God, they are everywhere, and we are only seeing the tip of the iceberg! The best is yet to come!
Charlyne and I are praying for thousands upon thousands more couples reconciled through the power of Jesus Christ in the near future!

We want your marriage in that number, so don't give up now! How do you stand strong? One way is by attending, being active in, and tithing to a church where Dr. Allen's question can be answered week after week; "What did the pastor preach that will help me through this next week?" It does matter who you are listening to on Sunday morning. It has to be a message from the Word of God, the Holy Bible, as directed by the Holy Spirit, and proclaimed by a called-out man of God, rightly dividing the Word of truth.

It is at this point that some standers find themselves getting into trouble. The pastor's calling is to preach to help you through this
next week, not to tell you every step to take. That is the job of the Holy Spirit, not of man. Preaching is general, and then the Holy Spirit gives specific direction to each of our lives.

Within biblical instruction, what may be right for me, may be wrong for you. Let me provide a real personal example. I struggle to keep
the pounds off. For me, God would be pleased for me not to come by the kitchen quite so often during this next week. If you are seriously
underweight, and bordering on malnourished, or have certain medical problems, what is God's will for me could be harmful to you. We each
have to listen to the Holy Spirit for His specific direction.

Charlyne and I pray that you are listening to the right man of God on Sundays, but who are you listening to the rest of the week? Have you
come to the place in your walk with Christ, and in your stand, where you can pray and then receive direction from the Holy Spirit, and not
from those around you?

Your marriage has suffered a "heart attack," as sin entered your mate's heart. Do not let mis-guided attempts by man to resuscitate your marriage kill your marriage. Jesus Christ is the only one who can bring your dead marriage back to life. Listen to His counsel alone.

Your accepting Internet advice, from man or from ministry, needs to be tempered with the direction the Holy Spirit is providing especially
for y-o-u.

Some Internet counsel contains scripture reference, often part of a verse or taken out of context. Before you follow the advice that appears on your screen, look up the verse or verses given. What scripture comes before or after it? Check another Bible translation, or a commentary. Does the passage given even apply? Above all else, PRAY. Ask God what He, not man, would have you to do in a specific circumstance.

"Do your best to present yourself to God as one approved, a workman who does not need to be ashamed and who correctly handles the word
of truth. Avoid godless chatter, because those who indulge in it will become more and more ungodly." 2 Timothy 2:15-16

Another danger can be found in Internet overuse, or even addiction. The test here is a simple one. Are you spending as much time in the Bible and alone with God as you are online? Discounting online prayer groups, and the like, where you are still listening to people, how much time are you spending alone with God and in His Word?

May Charlyne and I offer another litmus test for your stand? If there were a crisis this very day, would you run to the computer or to the
Bible? We all know what the answer should be. It is a blessing for us to prepare a daily "Charlyne Cares" for you, but these messages can never, never, never replace the time you must spend daily with an opened Bible before you.

Who are you listening to? Who will you be listening to this new week, and the week after? My wife and I pray that you can
answer without reservation, "I am listening to the Holy Spirit. He alone will help me make it through this new week."

"And this is my prayer: that your love may abound more and more in knowledge and depth of insight, so that you may be able to discern
what is best and may be pure and blameless until the day of Christ, filled with the fruit of righteousness that comes through Jesus
Christ-to the glory and praise of God." Philippians 1: 9-11</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">

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It's not directly a marriage issue - but please keep my son in your prayers. He's a great child - but he is struggling with his attitude and behavior.

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please pray for my marriage
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please pray that my wife will want to save our relatioship one day, she just fell out of the fact of being married, I hope and pray everyday that shel realize what we had and want to give it another chance

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Hi all,
It has been some time since I've posted anything. I've turned into more of a lurker instead. I have been praying for everyone. It would seem H is content to be just roommates. I am spending time working on me and being loving and responsive whenever possible. I have accepted the fact that my M may never have the emotional, physical, and spiritual attraction that I so desire.

In my prayers,
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I am so glad that I have found this.
I will lift these weary worriors as well.

If you could pray that we find a new job and a place to live where the Lord would have us.

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Hi all,

ilia, lonejrock and anchorhugger; I have added you to the list of people to be prayed for. Let us know whenever you feel answers have come. We always like to hear that. landslide, nice to know you're still out there and thinking about us. Haven't seen your name here in a while.

Ya'll have a very blessed weekend, ya hear. Same goes to all you other Prayer Warriors out there.

Love in Christ.

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I pray that God's grace and mercy is evident in each of your lives and marriages.

Please add my name to the list of prayer warriors.

Please also pray for my husband. He has been struggling spiritually. I am concerned that while he questions and doubts God, he is giving Satan space to further tamper with our fragile relationship.

I've been reading and praying "Power of a Praying Wife" and did see some breakthroughs where he seemed to be drawing closer to God. But, within a few days, he slipped back into attitudes and behaviors that were clearly not of God.

Please pray that I may have increased patience to endure this confusing time and that my confusion and pain does not block me from hearing and heeding God's direction for my life.

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P&P,

Welcome to the prayer group. I have added you to the list.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I've been reading and praying "Power of a Praying Wife" and did see some breakthroughs where he seemed to be drawing closer to God. But, within a few days, he slipped back into attitudes and behaviors that were clearly not of God.</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">You just keep at it. You know the enemy doesn't like to lose souls. He's not going to give up easily.

Bless you.

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A month ago my wife told me she did not love me any more, and left. We have had problems off and on for 3 years (been maried for 5 1/2 )but I had no Idea it was so bad. She moved back home a week ago but only because she had no other place to go, and is living in my livingroom. She has fallen back into her old habits (smoking and cursing) and has no more interest in reading the Bible or listening to anything God related. She is still going to Church however (paise the Lord). She is going to movies with me and out to eat and acts like she enjoyes my co., But if I say anything about getting back together it just pushes her back into her hole. I was not the perfect Husband, and I know I had ignored her and minipulated her to do things she did not want to, But I an praying that God change my hart so I will not do that to her anymore.

My Prayer Request: Please pray that God give her a hart of forgiveness; and that he gives me the hart to be the man I need to be, and that God repair this marriage.

Thank you and I will pray for all of you as well.


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