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Doing the happy dance!!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> some details please!
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I guess you were pleased.
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Thanks, Shul. Thanks, S&C. Errr, let's see, what details can I share? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" /> Well, we hugged, and touched a LOT. Something he said he "missed....." Me too! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> I just hung up the phone (cause he left late, and had a 3 hour drive back, I was worried about the weather and the hour - so got home from church and he had called to say he'd gotten home OK, and wanted to let me know - awwwwwwww). He said he got home OK, then said he was thinking about the NEXT visit. That will at his place. THEN he said he was thinking about the next visit here. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> He will make provisions (bring work clothes, stuff he saw that he will repair for me), church clothes, etc., cause I said I wanted him to come to my church, and I hoped he would love it as much as I do. He agreed to come and go with me. I MEANT to give him my copy of Five Love Languages and HNHN to read, but FORGOT at the late hour he left. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> I guess God had a reason to wait on that. </font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> I guess you were pleased. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Yup. SO WAS HE!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> And we talked........................a LOT! He admitted we should have been talking more all along..........so we didn't end up at this point. But God has a plan, and He will make everything right, and repay DOUBLE FOR OUR TROUBLE.Amen and AMEN!! PTL \o/ <small>[ June 27, 2004, 01:54 PM: Message edited by: lupolady ]</small>
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I am so happy for you, your story brings tears to my eyes, to think that my day is coming. I had a taste of it, but things are still cloudy for my husband. There is no other person in our relationship, just satan tugging so hard. I just pray that my H realizes this and turns to God. I pray for your continued happiness.
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Hi, everyone. I posted this over on Recovery (I *LOVE* being able to post there!!), and thought I needed to post it here for all my Praying brothers and sisters. H called last night. We talked for over 3 hours!!! It's a wonder my cordless phone didn't give out! We both admitted we're "scared" of taking the next step. I'm ashamed to say I didn't tell him we need to trust God with it. Basically what I did say was that God is in control, and I've followed HIM through all this up to this point. OH! But H did say he's going to go buy a new Bible today! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> We were talking about reading the Bible last Saturday, and I mentioned that I had bought The Message Bible, and I use it whenever something isn't clear to me in my "regular" Bible. He said he would go get one. I didn't know if I believed him or not. After all, he's not been one to be too keen on "spiritual" things for most of our M. Well, so he brought up that he's going to go buy one..........I really hope he follows through on that. Again, I'm watching the ACTIONS more than the words right now. Final thing I wanted to mention (most important thing I wanted to share from our convo) was that he said he kept all the cards/letters I wrote to him over the last 3 years!!! I WAS SHOCKED!! See, when I got here, and he was GONE, and everyone else was talking about "Plan A'ing" the WS, I coudln't figure out how I could do that, since we didn't have any contact. Several people talked about "Plan A'ing Long Distance." It was Lostva's inspirational story and her commitment to Plan A'ing her H from afar that pushed me to do it. I would send him cards, for instance. Like at Father's Day, I wrote him a letter, and put it in a card. Basically, it was the first apology for my part in the break-down of our M. One time, the MB folks started a thread about the Top Ten Things I Love about my H......and I compiled my list and sent it to him. Then I came up with 10 more, and sent THAT!! Things like that. You get the picture. I followed MB - CHAPTER AND VERSE - even tho there was NOTHING to indicate that he was recieving them, wanted them, or that it was having any impact at all on the A. Well, last night H admitted he got and read every single card and letter I wrote him, and he kept them all, too!!!!! I hope this encourages some people. Even tho the fog is thick, SOME of the MB stuff CAN permeate through if you stick with it, and follow their advice. What it says to me is that "God's Love Can Breakthrough any Darkness." One of the very first things someone wrote that I took to heart was, "This stuff is counter-intuitive...." and I think that's why it's so difficult to do! We DON'T BELIEVE it can work that way!! So we don't do what is advised. P.S. H asked me several times (he kept forgetting my answer - <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> ) what the first day back at school is (I'm a teacher). I have a strange suspicion he's got a sneaking surprise planned for that day!! Anyway, I wanted to keep everyone updated.....and I hope my sitch is an inspiration to anyone who is feeling HOPELESS today. It all boils down to TRUSTING GOD and YOU staying in His Will. He'll work out the rest! God Bless, all.
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{{{Lupolady}}}
You are such a blessing to me.
God loves you and I love you.
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Lupolady,
This is Cajeanie - you may remember me from over a year ago. I still check in here, and I was thrilled to read this post.
God is indeed true to His word. I wish you the best, but please keep posting here for those of us who will miss your inspiration.
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Cajeanie -
Sure, I remember you!
Thanks for stopping by. Thanks for your encouragement.
I feel like I *finally* have something to share!! Before this, I felt like a parrot just repeating back what others had been saying worked, b/c I had no practical experience, since NOTHING had worked and there was NO "movement" in our sitch.
Now that we are moving in a positive direction, I feel like I have something to share, something to "counsel" others with that is actually working!
I never stopped believing in MB principles, it was just that my stich was so unique, and nothing offered here would fit my sitch. So, I just read, and learned, and became encouraged by reading about so many couples who were restored, so I knew it was possible.
I held onto that hope, as well as the faith God was strengthening in me.
God Bless,
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Lupolady,
It is great to here how God answers our prayers. God has done so much in my life and I am so grateful to have my husband home. I still get discouraged at times, especially with things going on in my son's life. We need to hear how God's is moving in other's lifes.
Satan loves to attack us after God moves in our lifes. Things get rough around our home sometimes. It is good to come here and read more answered prayers.
God is good all the time.It just doesn't look like it at times. Thanks for sharing what God is doing in your life. I don't do that enough these days. Thanks for being faithful.
You are all in my prayers,
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Hi Lupolady,
I love following your story of what a loving God we have and followed you here from the Recovery board.
Your testimony a few months ago reminded me of my part in our mess during the aftermath of H's affair. My protective walls were so thick and layered with hurt after hurt, but your gentle reminder was that God has a plan, that He loves me even when I'm being stubborn and that I needed to repent from my own sin of rejecting H just because of my hurt. We are called to love and I am in awe of people like yourself who can plan A in the face of such major hurt and disappointment.
H and I have made good progress finally and like you and your H, it's taken more talking than we had ever done before to clear up past misunderstandings. I feel more ready than ever to move forward in spite of all we've both done at the subtle suggestion of the devil who has been riding my back whispering discouragement and justification for self righteous anger.
We've been married 26 years now and it's time for us to move forward. H is not perfect, but God is gently showing me over and over that I'm no prize either. I am pigheaded, stubborn, strong willed and have struggled with surrendering to Him and His plan. Not the route I would have chosen but He can use it to smooth off our rough edges and transform us to His image. Ouch. But I am finally feeling in my heart what I've known in my head for a long time.... true freedom and peace comes from obedience to Him, and discontent and emotional turmoil comes from resisting His plan.
Lupolady, thanks for sharing. You've always given me lots to think/pray about.
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I'm shocked; stunned; scared; upset; saddened; suprised; confident; respectful
God is Awesome! People always would say at Bible College that God is Good! My answer was always - can He be anything else!
God always can - He always will!
Situations arise that we cannot always understand - or even want to understand - yet God is able!
I read your postings and I was hurt because my WS prays that I die. She believes that God wants her with the OM and that I am in the way. She does things to upset me. I was so upset today - I just wanted to cry! (Wouldn't let myself....) Yet Jesus came into my thoughts - said why are you upset at a sinner who is sinning? Why are you upset with your lover who isn't loving? I thought your right - I need to pray for her in love not hate.
Your are reading this and saying get to the point - here it is - I read this post! How long should I persevere? I read this post! How long should I believe in a God who cannot change another persons heart against there will? I read this post!
Even if they slay me - I will trust in you my Lord. I will not trust in chariots!
Praise be to our Lord who even when we are unfaithful He is still faithful! I have prayed for your recovery - I have prayed for purity in your dating - for purity in your hearts and for purity in your deeds. May God richly Bless all areas of your life with patience and peace in knowing Him and the love He has for you! He can and will when it is His time. Now I read this post again and pray that I will not give up!
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Thanks, Joe, for responding to my thread. I read your post, and I know full well that pain, that hurt. Your S tells you they want what God wants (yeah, right!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> ) all the while seeing, doing whatever w/OP. Remember, God is not mocked!! Read Hosea. Pray, talk to Him. Sit quiet. Be still. Let HIM talk to you. BTW, as an update of sorts, I just got back from a week-long trip to "the far country" where H lives. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> We had a *wonderful* time! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> Folks, he is saying and doing ALL the right things. We did the EN's ?? together. We talked about it afterward. It opened a lot of doors to stuff. There's tons of stuff I didn't realize, as well as he........so we are communicating on many more levels than we ever did before. He is trying. He is willing. He will join our b/f in her church tomorrow. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" /> This was totally HIS idea.........he hadn't talked to her this whole 3 years either, but he asked if I would like to invite her to my birthday dinner he and I were going to. Of course, I said yes! She has stood totally beside me in this "stand" and prayer for reconciliation. He was a little nervous about her reaction, but God's grace took over, and it's as though we've never been apart........she hugged him, and welcomed him home...........(I knew she would!) We then went to dinner, and afterwards, at her house, he asked about what church she went to, and asked if he could join her tomorrow............ God is working a miracle. God is sooooooo good. God is soooooooo PERFECT!!! I prayed for many years for God to do this work, but at the time, I had no clue how it could ever have taken place. I can't even imagine this working out any other way now.......... All I can say to my faithful, prayerful friends is: Hang in there!!! GOD KNOWS WHAT HE IS DOING. And HE is in the "reconciliation" business. It's what HE wants to do!!!! Always. No matter what the circumstances look like, or for how long. Reconciling us to Himself is His first priority. After that, He wants to reconcile ALL relationships in order to show the world His Perfect Love. I believe that totally. I can see it clearly now after the week I've had. It couldn't have been more perfect...........well, except for clumsy me tripping and spraining my foot Wednesday! I ended up staying an additional 2 days. H and I agreed God must have had a reason for that, too! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> Throughout the entire week, he couldn't have been more loving, more attentive, more sweet and kind to me. Folks, he IS trying. He is trying to "make up" for everything he did wrong for the last 3 years(he admitted to this, too!)..........and although I appreciate it, I have told him it's not necessary. Just come back to God, and follow HIM, and I will be happy. So, to wrap up, if you are relatively new to this site, or this situation, listen to me. GOD IS ALWAYS IN CONTROL. Even when we can't see anything positive........we have to keep our eyes on Jesus, and totally trust that God is in control!!! I have seen it. I knew it, but to actually SEE IT with my own eyes has been God's special, loving gift to me on my birthday!! ALL Praise to God for His Goodness and Love to US!!! \O/ God Bless, <small>[ July 17, 2004, 06:52 PM: Message edited by: lupolady ]</small>
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Lupo!!
PTL, PTL and PTL!!!!!!
I came back to check on an old friend and low and behold I see this update!
Congratulations lady. You are one amazing woman!
Love ya!
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<strong> Knewjie:! </strong> THANK YOU sooooooooo much for "showing up." I'm so happy, and I just want to share it with the world!! It was YOUR EXAMPLE which "inspired" me to keep on keeping on....... to believe and never give up hope. Thank you, thank you, for reaching out through your pain and helping those of us who were hurting beyond belief. It was YOUR amazing ability to reach out and help others, by being a shining example of what Plan A should look and sound like, that kept me here many times when I wanted to throw it all in the trash. God Bless you and Robert and Kristin! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />
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lupolady,
Please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers. I do come here and check up on all my old friends. It is just hard to post much since my husband is home now. Praise God he is and praise God for all He has done in your life.
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