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Parenting courses, websites and books and tapes have been helpful for me in my role as a parent, a father, and a coach for my wife. I will try to list out some of the references here.

ODD, Oppositional Defiant Disorder

WHAT PARENTS NEED TO KNOW ABOUT ODD, by Dr. James D. Sutton, Ed.D. docspeak.com

1. Boundaries
2. MB Emotional Needs
3. Marital Bedroom
Marriage Hel Books, Sites 180
4. Divorce Busting
5. Plan A and B
6. Abuse in Marriage
7. Parenting Courses


ALREADY PITCHED:
Avoid re-pitching to avoid rancor and arguments.

Durhan 76, 340000, Plan B Backfires.


Handling intense complaining on family outings. this is tdoyu4urg5hn.

BOUNDARIES IN MARRIAGE (1999), by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend, Available in Leather, ISBN 0-310-24612-1, Hard back: ISBN 0-310-22151-X, and Paper Back: ISBN 0-310-24314-9 (Soft Cover) Zondervan, Grand Rapids, Michigan 49530.

Boundaries in Marriage Workbook, Paperback, ISBN 0-310-22875-1.

Boundaries, Face to Face (2003) by Henry Cloud and John Townsend

cloudtownsend.com
www.drhenrycloud.com
www.newlife.com

Boundaries Course Video, with Cloud and Townsend, comes with the Boundaries in Marriage, the Particpant's Guide and the Instructor's Guide.
http://www.walmart.com/catalog/product.gsp?product_id=1813624&sourceid=1500000000000000040820
Boundaries Groups:

overcomersoutreach.org
Overcomer's Outreach Boundaries Groups

celebraterecovery.com
Celebrate Recovery Boundarie Groups


Lecture Reservations:
newlife.com
1-800-new life
703-729-3900, Chris Cole on Groups


MB Emotional Needs:

Affection
Sexual Fulfillment
Conversation
Recreational Companionship
Honesty and Openness
Physical Attractiveness
Financial Support
Domestic Support
Family Commitment
Admiration


Personality and Compatability Test

Compatibiliby Test:

Couple Compatability Test

Drucilla Thread
Drucilla Thread on Eanneagram Copmpatiablity test


MB Thread with Personality Test References:
MB Thread with Personality Test Refernces

MARITAL BEDROOM:

"101 Nights of Great Sex: Secret Sealed Seductions for Fun-Loving Couples"

Board Game: Enchanted Evening

Various Opinions on Erotic Videos

Men Sometimes Don't Disclose Needs

Christian Views on the Marital bedroom


MARRIAGE HELP BOOKS - SITES

'How to stubbornly refuse to make yourself miserable about anything, yes anything' by Albert Ellis, he talks about people who 'awfulize' things.

Books on doing divorce with minimal negative impact on the family:

Divorce Casualties; Preventing Parental Alienation by Douglas Darnell.

Mom's House, Dad's House, by Isolina Ricci.

Catholics Views on Marriage: Catholic Views on Marriage

Website: divorcebusting.com, MICHELE WEINER DAVIS, 1-800-664-2435 Michelle Weiner Davis, 1-800-664-2435, 180's

MB Forum 180 Degree Divorce Busters List MB Thread on 180 Degree Divorce Busters


Stop Divorce Website
Stop Divorce website


Search Words, 30-60 Days, Boundaries, Blames, Denial

Avatars Gincoos Avatars

MB Photos:
MB Photos

MB Rosecrucian
Lucks 557 Laura

MB Posters working on Boundaries

MB Posters Pitched for Mornings & Satiation

Daisy37 10590

M01069
Listening and Morning, and What should I change now" and 180 Degrees and Boundaries. She has attmpted Suicide, 3 years ago, Military H refuses sex, talks divorce, goes to meetings after cleaning out truck. M resolved not to cry and beg. M has gone out whil H babysists.



M01069 Thread on Husband Refuses

MB POSTERS

WAT, Worth a Try, Husband, 2 children, separated before birth of chidren, got back together with wife afer childbirth, was present, had goood impact on marriage


Starfish, married Woman wtih several children

Orchid's Personal Story at end of P. 1

MB THREADS

Divorce after Plan B:

cnf, Her Daughter's Father marries OW after Plan B


RECONCILLIATION AFTER PLAN B

One Reconciliation, several Lost Loves with Plan B


Separate after Marriage Counseling:

Pamea 03 thread

References of resourses for Abuse in Marriage

jade72 26189
URL=http://www.marriagebuilders.com/cgi-bin/ultimatebb.cgi?ubb=get_topic;f=8;t=016561]MB Emotional Needs Thread, References on Verbal Abuse by Jade 72, 26189[/URL]

There have been posts under Resolving Conflict on verbal abuse also.

Dr. Irene Forum on Verbal Abuse, and Tuttle's Catbox


ayern 28648 Other Topics, Varieties of Opinions on the Marital Bedroom


PARENTING COURSES:

Instructors for awareparenting .com Phone: 805-968-1868, California, or E Mail info@awareparenting.com

for Parent Effectiveness Training instructors in your area, Phone, 800-628-1197, or 858-481-8121, or E-Mail to info@gordontraining.com. Gordon Training, Parent Effectiveness Training


SOFTWARE:

Some good computer spyware is Starr home version at www.iopus.com and


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MARITAL BEDROOM

Biblical citations on marital cooperatin on satisfying sex drives

Fantasy Forum, sometimes not up.

Fantasy Forum for Wild Interactions


Further wild
web pageWild Ideas

More Wild more wild ideas

euro-tgp.com

MASSAGE:

Rollers for self muscle stretching and easy massage of muscles of the other person.

Muscle Toning and Stretching Aids, and 2 Inch Massage Wheel


Arrousing Massage Instruction Video Tape

Esalen Massage Instruction Video

DIVORCE BUSTER'S INFO:


Website: divorcebusting.com
MB Thread on 180 Degree Divorce Busters


180 Degree Divorce Busting, by Michelle Weiner-Davis, divorcebusting.com

Internet Search Words: Divorce Busters

Michelle Weiner-Davis's divorce busting 180 degree list, here it is:

Article by Michelle Weiner-Davis on Divorce for Longevity.com, Divorce Section

lovegevity.com, 180 Degree Divorce Busing Articles by Michelle Weiner Davis


Stop Divorce Website
Stop Divorce website

911 for Marriages, Articles Books, Forgiveness, Recovery


Articles and Books on Surviving an affair

Islamic Books
I ran across a Muslim book on Self Building, Islamic Self Development book, khatoons. com

Khatoons, Inc, 800-667-7884
Self Building, $18.00 KB1011

TOW site, gloryb.com Discusses infidelity in a postive manner, and belittles MB

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HANDLING AND CHANGING OVERLY CONTROLLING ACTS

Love Must Be Tough, by Dr. James C. Dobson, Tyndale House, 1996


Manipulation and Control Issues Website

MB Thread on The Love Diet

The Love Diet Chapter of WHAT WOMEN WANT MEN TO KNOW by Barbara DeAngelis
Poor Couple Communication caused by Controlling Acts


REVERSE FOG TALK

Non-Escalating Responses to Fog Talk, Thread By Orchid


JEALOUSY

How to Easily Catch a Cheating Lover, catchacheat.com

Overcoming Excessively Jealous Comments and Outbursts, nomorejealousy.com

Handling Jealousy in Love Relations, romanceclass.com


TYPES OF LIES:


One step in looking behind a person's words, is to understand the direction of their falsehoods. What types of lies is W telling you? There are fanciful confabulations interwoven with a few facts. There are lies to get out of trouble. There are lies to cover a secret. There are lies to be considerate to someone. There are lies that are simply the opposite of the truth. There are lies intended to hurt or punish someone. Ther are lies intended to lead you away from the truth.


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Nurturing Parenting by Stephen J. Bavolk, Ph. D. Nurturing Parenting Courses and Materials
1-800-688-5822

Birth Control

essure.com
Essure.com. Tubal Blocking, similar to Ligation


Search Words:

Morning Sex
Masturbation
Relations
Masturbating
Viagra

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Referance for Viagra and Anatomy diagram link

Link to Viagra and Anatomy Diragrams

Another Link to Female Anatomy Diagram:

Link to Diagram of Female Anatomy

Family Planning

Planned Parenthood

5 Love Languages, by Gary Smalley

1. Words of Affirmation-Sincere compliments and encouraging words-this person always has something nice to say and they often expect kind words in return. One hallmark of this language is the way people ask for what
they want, i.e. "Love makes requests, not demands" Requires humility, Demands are put-downs implying "I am important and you are not. Do this for me, your desires don't matter." A humble request looks like this-giving choices-"You probably have more important things to do, but would you consider doing this? I would be grateful".

2. Quality Time-People show their love by simply being there, by spending time with their mates. "It is a matter of being completely there, being a companion, not just taking up space. It does not mean that we have to spend our moments together gazing into each other's eyes. It means we are doing something together and we are giving our
full attention to the other person." (This fits Harley's recreational companionship category) Chapman breaks this down into two components:
One is simple togetherness, the other is quality conversation.

Quality conversation requires involvement, eye contact, full attention (active listening), listening THROUGH the words for the feelings being expressed, understanding the body language, not much interruption, a
soul-to-soul connection not just mind to mind.

3. Gifts-Some communicate their love in the language of gift-giving and they look to receive it from others in the same way. gifts are visual symbols of love, not a matter of money, tokens of our feelings for the other...an investment of a certain amount of emotion, wisdom, time, expense, and effort in the process of imagining, creating, choosing,
buying, wrapping, or transporting a gift to you, all because of love.

These gifts are often displayed, similar to trophies all around them, not because they are greedy and put emphasis in "things" but because of the way they prize the love behind the token of love. It is physical evidence of love involved.

4. Acts of Service-Sees love in doing things for others and expects this same kind of action from others. In some ways I see this as similar to the gift giving in that some of the acts of service may be help around the house, remodeling, etc...visual things that show one's love. It is more than cooking a special dinner, it may include baking a favorite cake as an extra to show love. It is helping to pack his or her suitcase for a trip and maybe putting in love notes, or a baked goodie, bubble bath or whatever else, you know he/she would like. Lehman, once a year, deposits his wife in a motel with flowers, books, room service, etc. and leaves her for a weekend to give her space while he deals with the kids. Now that is above and beyond the call of duty, but you can see how loved she must feel.

5. Physical Touch-Goes beyond sex, but seems to display itself in guys via sex, but it is more than sex. It is about big and little kisses, hand-holding, backrubs, arm around the shoulder, playing footsie, sharing an armrest ot the movies, lightly stroking a hand...etc.


Words for Feelings:

From Takola


Feeling Words ~ In order of intensity of feeling from a little to a lot
Mad:
Bothered
Ruffled
Irritated
Displeased
Annoyed
Steamed
Irked
Perturbed
Frustrated
Angry
Fed up
Disgusted
Indignant
Ticked off
Bristling
Fuming
Explosive
Enraged
Irate
Incensed
Burned up
Outraged
Furious
Blind rage

Sad:
Down
Blue
Somber
Low
Glum
Lonely
Disappointed
Worn out
Melancholy
Down hearted
Unhappy
Dissatisfied
Gloomy
Mournful
Grieved
Depressed
Lousy
Crushed
Defeated
Dejected
Empty
Wretched
Despairing
Devastated

Glad:
At ease
Secure
Comfortable
Relaxed
Contented
Optimistic
Satisfied
Refreshed
Stimulated
Pleased
Warm
Snug
Happy
Encouraged
Tickled
Proud
Cheerful
Thrilled
Delighted
Joyful
Elated
Exhilarated
Overjoyed
Ecstatic

Afraid:
Uneasy
Apprehensive
Careful
Cautious
Hesitant
Tense
Anxious
Nervous
Edgy
Distressed
Scared
Frightenend
Repulsed
Agitiated
Afraid
Shocked
Alarmed
Overwhelmed
Frantic
Panic stricken
Horrified
Petrified
Terrified
Numb

Confused:
Curious
Uncertain
Ambivalent
Doubtful
Unsettled
Hesitant
Perplexed
Puzzled
Muddled
Distracted
Flustered
Jumbled
Unfocused
Fragmented
Dismayed
Insecure
Dazed
Bewildered
Lost
Stunned
Chaotic
Torn
Baffled
Dumbfounded

Ashamed:
Uncomfortable
Awkward
Clumsy
Self-conscious
Disconcerted
Chagrinned
Abashed
Embarrassed
Flustered
Sorry
Apologetic
Ashamed
Regretful
Remorseful
Guilty
Disgusted
Belittled
Humiliated
Violated
Dirty
Mortified
Defiled
Devastated
Degraded

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ON LINE MARRIAGE COUNSELING

Tupy at saveyourmarriagecentral.com
Tupy at saveyourmarriagecentral.com


MASSAGE AIDS

I saw this guy giving a demonstration with a seated massage chair. He had a 110 Volt, plug in, two handed vibrator, maybe 12 Inches by 12 Inches by 8 Inches High. It had about a 9 inch by 10 inch pad, for vibrating the back and leg muscles. He let me write down the info off the vibrator.

Maximum Massager, Made in China
Machine Brokers
2 New Road, #134
Aston, PA 19014
610-459-4543, has Voice Mail, 24 Hr.

I don't believe there is an internet address or Web Page. List is $376.00 and is sometimes discounted to around $250.00 with $15.00 shipping.

Gave a nice deep muscle massage. The lady I saw getting the massage with the Maximum Massage, did not want to let the next person in line take a turn.

Marital Oral techniques


Reference for an adult toy, for men, Patented Adult Vibrator Pumps also available.

Errotic Stories

For single men, jackinworld. com, ideas and products for Singles

Men's Underwear, including fur lined: Men's Underwear, Fur Lined Elephant with a trunk


Biblical Contradictions and Logical Flaws

Divorce Care Group Locations and Phone Numbers

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PARENTING COURSES


Nurturing Parenting by Stephen J. Bavolk, Ph. D. Nurturing Parenting Courses and Materials
1-800-688-5822

Parenting Books, Courses and Videos

AP, Active Parenting by Michael H. Popkin. Ph. D.
Active Parenting Web Site


Tough Love Parents Manual by Phyllis and David Yourk


Instructors for awareparenting .com Phone: 805-968-1868, California, or E Mail info@awareparenting.com

for Parent Effectiveness Training instructors in your area, Phone, 800-628-1197, or 858-481-8121, or E-Mail to info@gordontraining.com. Gordon Training, Parent Effectiveness Training

This is a Link to parenting instructors: Instructors trained in awareparenting.com
805-968-1868, California, E Mail, info@awareparenting.com


Boundaries With Kids, Raising Great Kids
by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend, Zondervan, Grand Rapids, Michigan 49530.

Boundaries, Face to Face (2003) by Henry Cloud and John Townsend

cloudtownsend.com
www.drhenrycloud.com
www.newlife.com


ODD, Oppositional Defiant Disorder

WHAT PARENTS NEED TO KNOW ABOUT ODD, by Dr. James D. Sutton, Ed.D. docspeak.com, docspeak.com, James Sutton, Parenting and Oppositional Defiant Disorder


Internet Search for "Step Parenting"

stepparenting.com
StepParenting.com

step-parenting.com
Step-Parenting.com


CURRENT PROJECTS:

Searching Admiration under Emotional needs

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1. Listening Questions
2. The Love Diet
3. Nifty sayings

LISTENING QUESTIONS:

Today, my wife was starting to talk about the budget, and my weekly earnings. I asked her to change the subject, because we had had an unpleasant conversation about that subject the night before. My wife fell silent. Thinking now, I realize that I missed an opportunity to listen to my wife's ideas. I could have asked her, "Let me understand what you are suggesting..." or, "Can you summarize a more positive approach relating to last night's conversation?" or "Can you suggest how we can do bettter?" or "How would you divide up what we agree uopn, and what is left that needs further discussion?"

Any time coming up that you would have time to do something with me?


The Love Diet MB Thread



1001 Ways to Be Romantic

Gregory J. Godek, Foreword by Mark Victor Hansen


Format: Paperback - REVISED

Pub. Date: September 1999




People who bought this book also bought:
• The Romantic's Guide: Hundreds of Creative Tips for a Lifetime of Love Michael S. Webb
• 10,000 Ways to Say I Love You Gregory J. P. Godek, Gregory J. Godek (Introduction)
• The Fun Book of Couples: 102 Ways to Celebrate Love Melina Gerosa Bellows
• The Good Orgasm Guide Kate Taylor
• Superflirt Tracey Cox, Janeanne Gilchrist (Photographer)



Product Details:
ISBN: 1570714819
Format: Paperback, 368pp
Pub. Date: September 1999
Publisher: Sourcebooks, Incorporated
Edition Description: REVISED
Edition Number: 3
Barnes & Noble Sales


Atrology references:

UP Astrology References

http://dancingmoononline.com/store/locations.php?osCsid=3c2be24e152e222231dfdeadc9bf07ca Bob from North Carolina


Keller College, Washington State

http://www.kepler.edu/index.html


Data Source
http://sourceforge.net/

Skycalendar

http://freshmeat.net/projects/skylendar/

Astro.com
http://www.astro.com/


Thread on Programs
http://mysticwicks.com/showthread.php?t=536&highlight=Programs

http://astrologynewage.com/

Program info:

http://www.astrolog.org/astrolog/astlink.htm


http://uk.geocities.com/astrolog32/


Data Source
http://sourceforge.net/

Skycalendar

http://freshmeat.net/projects/skylendar/

3, NIFTY SAYINGS

A man's greatness is not determined by what he does.. it is determined by what it takes to discourage him..."

"You should never let the sun set on tomorrow before the sun rises today."


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