The OW is blaming my H for my low opinion of her! She is telling him that if he had not been so open and honest with me about her part in the affair, I would have not thought so badly of her. She has no concept of guilt! She does not accept any responsibility that her actions are what caused my opinion. I will never understand what makes women like this tick! All he did was confirm what I had thought all along, that she was the agressor in the affair, that she persisted when he said no. And she does not deny that, just says that if he had not told me I would have a better opinion of her! SHEESH!! What does she think I am supposed to think of her? Just exactly what opinion am I supposed to have about the person who is trying to destroy my life? Will somebody please explain this to me? <P>------------------<BR>Cat<P>I wish I didn't know now what I didn't know then.

Sounds like this woman has no concious.The nerve of her getting mad at your H for your feelings.<P>It's like she trying to get your approval of the affair and your husband was a totally innocent victim!Yeah Right!<P>Tell your husband he needs to break off all contact with this woman she sounds psycho!

Maybe this is good. Maybe it will make H see what kind of person she <B>really</B> is. <P>I haven't been able to keep up with all the stories (there are so many now). <P>Has your H quit the affair? Is he working on the marriage now? <P>I agree that it's brassy of her to expect you to have a high regard for her. <P>It sounds like she's mentally disturbed. At the very least, she's spoiled and can't except not getting things her way all the time.<P>I don't want to scare you, but you probably should keep an eye on her. She could turn out to be dangerous.<P>Keo<P>

Reina....<P>Yes,I agree that she seems to want my approval or something. My H is not ready to commit to the "no contact" yet. He is working to get there, tho. Thanks for the advice.<P>Keosha....<P>He still hasn't cut off contact with her, Keo. He has trouble doing things that he feels will hurt people, that's part of what got us into this mess in the first place. He is working on getting himself to the place where he can do what he has to do to save our marriage. I agree with you and Reina that the woman is mentally disturbed, but he doesn't WANT to believe that yet. He keeps thinking that he could not have fallen in love with someone who is not 'a good person.' I am careful when he is not home, don't open the door without looking first, keep a gun handy, etc. Love ya all.<P>------------------<BR>Cat<P>I wish I didn't know now what I didn't know then.