azhootie,<P>You have done a very noble thing leading WTD here in the hope that he would get help here to recommit to his marriage. This has to be very painful for you. And yet, you can draw strength from the fact that you did the right thing. <P>So now you have to deal with the loss of someone dear to you. I'm sorry you need to feel this pain. But it is unavoidable now. So feel it, and then let it go. Don't let it take over your life. Don't dwell on the loss but focus on making a new you. Start filling your life with other thoughts, activities, etc. Decide to make this episode part of your past.<P>Go to God for help - he will help you. There are a few people here who have been in your shoes and can give you better advice than I have. Listen to them with a fresh, open mind.<P>Thank you for what you have done. I hope you can someday focus on finding someone who touches your heart and is free to give their heart to you.