I wanted to share a little story with you all to let you know how far we have gotten in the last 9 months.<P>A week ago my H was away. He phoned home and said that he had heard a song that he was going to buy for me. It would be my song. <P>The man has never listened to the lyrics of a song. He usually doesn't know who sings them.<P>Yesterday he took me to lunch and this song came on the radio. He told me this was it. "Buy me a Rose" by Kenny Rogers. It says everything and more. From my remedial H who has grown into the most sensitive man that I know. <P>BUY ME A ROSE <BR>HE WORKS HARD TO GIVE HER ALL HE THINKS SHE WANTS <BR>A THREE-CAR GARAGE… HER OWN CREDIT CARD <BR>HE PULLS IN LATE TO WAKE HER UP, WITH A KISS GOODNIGHT <BR>IF HE COULD ONLY READ HER MIND (SHE’D SAY) <P> <BR>BUY ME A ROSE, CALL ME FROM WORK <BR>OPEN A DOOR FOR ME, WHAT WOULD IT HURT <BR>SHOW ME YOU LOVE ME BY THE LOOK IN YOUR EYES <BR>THESE ARE THE LITTLE THINGS I NEED THE MOST IN MY LIFE <P> <BR>NOW THE DAYS HAVE GROWN TO YEARS OF FEELIN’ ALL ALONE <BR>AND SHE CAN’T HELP BUT WONDER WHAT SHE’S DOING WRONG <BR>‘CAUSE LATELY SHE’D TRY ANYTHING TO TURN HIS HEAD <BR>WOULD IT MAKE A DIFFERENCE IF SHE SAID <P> <BR>BUY ME A ROSE, CALL ME FROM WORK <BR>OPEN A DOOR FOR ME, WHAT WOULD IT HURT <P>SHOW ME YOU LOVE ME BY THE LOOK IN YOUR EYES <BR>THESE ARE THE LITTLE THINGS I NEED THE MOST IN MY LIFE <P> <BR>AND THE MORE THAT HE LIVES, THE LESS THAT HE TRIES <BR>TO SHOW HER THE LOVE THAT HE HOLDS INSIDE <BR>AND THE MORE THAT SHE GIVES, THE MORE THAT HE SEES <BR>THIS IS A STORY OF YOU… AND ME <P> <BR>SO I BOUGHT YOU A ROSE, ON THE WAY HOME FROM WORK <BR>TO OPEN THE DOOR TO A HEART THAT I HURT <BR>AND I HOPE THAT YOU NOTICE THIS LOOK IN MY EYES <BR>‘CAUSE I’M GONNA MAKE THINGS RIGHT <BR>FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE <P>I’M GONNA HOLD YOU TONIGHT <BR>DO ALL THESE LITTLE THINGS, <BR>FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE<P>(And yes Sheba I know it isn't Whitesnake but I love it anyway) <P>

My H told me about that song a few months ago, before I knew about his affair. He had listened to the words, said he wondered what would have happened if he did that, then he proceeded to bury himself deeper into his affair. Oh well.<P>Kris

Kris<BR>Sorry if this brought sad memories. <BR>I posted it because I thought it might give someone hope that miracles can happen.

Happy for your miracle Wassi!<P>Starpony

I printed this and I will post it on my bathroom door. Thank you. I will remove all the names though. Thank you, thank you.

Wasstubborn,<BR>I was just reflecting. I didnt mean to bring you down. I read your post and the letter H wrote you...You give me hope....just maybe one day my H's heart will turn tender. I am very happy for you and pray your H continues to shower you with the love you need.<BR> <BR>Kris

<BR>Wasstubborn,<BR>That is wonderful!! I think that song is so beautiful! I'm so happy for you! <P>

Starpony<BR>I am still counting on hearing about your miracles. A year ago I would never have believed my H had a hope. I think he was the King of insensitivity for many many years. The only part about the song that doesn't fit is that I did tell him those things. He just didn't hear me. Now he does.<P>sobeit<BR>I'm glad this helps. There aren't any real names on it though so I wouldn't worry <P>Kris<BR>You didn't bring me down. I'm just sad for you. I am sad for all of us. This is so darn hard. When my H does things like this, I thank the Lord but I wonder why it took what it did to get here.<P>momma<BR>Thank you <BR>I've learned a lot of things over the past year. <BR>My H will not have time to buy that CD. I will buy it for us. It's the thought that counts. Before all of this I would have been upset that he didn't bother to buy it. Now I know what matters is that he thought about it.

HI Wassi,<BR>That is so beautiful.<BR>Last year there was no way I would have ever expected to hear anything like this from your H. He is one tough case....and you did it!!! Yeeehawwww (in the spirit of Kenny of course!) <P>You have come such a long way, and inspiration to those dealing with particularly, ahhhh, 'difficult' h's!<BR>aloha!!!

cl<BR>Yes he is a real tough case isn't he? <BR>And I'll even listen to country music for this one. No matter how out of character it is for me. I guess compromise is part of the program. <P>Can you get your Hotmail yet? I just sent you mail there. I'm a little slow. Thought I was sending it to the other.

WS,<BR>Sighhhhhhhhh.........<BR>I am sharing your good feelings. I can feel what you feel. This is that sign you needed. You have seen him change, you are becoming that special couple, a lot of work has gone into this. Put this on that calendars of anniversaries. Next year at this time, you will even be better!!!!! Hard to believe? Yep.....even better! <BR>Isn't it fun to share things like this?<P>AH<BR>----------<BR>TIME

AH<BR>You know I believe everything you say!<BR>Would I be here without you and some other special people?<BR>I knew you'd appreciate this because....you know that I have never seen that kind of sensitivity in 20 years. I knew the potential was there. I just wasn't a priority. It seems that when people grow up their priorities change.

Wassi,<BR>What a difference!! See, it IS still in there,,sometimes buried WAYYYY down but revivable! Keep up the great work. You are on to the rewards part now and they keep getting better and better! <BR>

Nerly <BR>You know I'm always so happy to see your name!<P>This is part of my H that I haven't seen in 20 years. <BR>Thank you for being one of those special people who kept me going through the really tough parts. <P>It's now 10 months since the last major episode with Bimbo. It's been a long haul but yes the rewards are really starting to appear. You know it takes a while to get over so much betrayal. I think for the first time in 8 years I really believe she is gone. Wow! That's a different feeling.