<BR>Q1. Before my H's A, we were 100% open financially to each other. On the d-day, I quick put aside all cash found in my house. I was scared, didn't know what my H's going to do. After things settled a little I made my own account, and deposited my unemployment checks without telling my H. I was going to tell him about the account later, and did (not about the cash though). He understood me and said no problem, yet I can see his feelings got hurt, since he's never going to give me and kids any financial problem even things go the worst. It was my little revenge and registance... <P>I'm feeling bad and since I'm going to ask him to be completely honest with me (I'm trying to get an appo w/Dr H early next week for my H), I'm thinking about apologizing and show all money and my bank book to him, asking what he wants me to do with them. Is this bad idea? Should I wait to see my H's session w/Dr.? It's going to be a few days to get appo yet, and I'm feeling like I have to do something. I'll appreciate any advice...<P>Q2 We live in a tiny small town. Our house is for sale, everybody in town knows where we're moving to, and people know some of what's going on because the OW's getting divorce in the same town. Everytime people I know call/email me and imply "if you need any help let me know" I get really nurvous and depressed. I know their intention is good but why can't they remain quiet so that I don't know that they know? Every small question from people at grocery store makes me think "How much does this person know? Where did she/he hear from that?" It's so painful I want to turn around and run. Sometimes I want to ask "Where did you hear that? What else did everybody talk about?" and barely keep myself under control, no need to feed cruel gossip lovers with more embarrassment. I know I didn't do anything wrong but people don't care! I guess this isn't a question at all but just couldn't help telling to somebody...
