Hey Mike, great to hear from ya.
I have a question, and i want some really honest answers here. Over the course of last summer, many nieghbors and friends have been witness to both my WW and I parenting. They've all seen how involved I am and that my WW woudl go "off duty" from about the moment I walked in the door at night. In her affidavit, she makes the claim that I was an uninvolved parent and that I was not at all involved with the day to day care of my kids, which is obviously a flat lie. She also tries to make the claim that I have an anger problem. I have asked several of my nieghbors if they would give a sworn statement about the reality of my involvement, that I don't have an anger problem, and that I was about as equal of a care giver as could be possible. All I want is the truth, I've told everyone that I don't want them to prop me up or put her down... I just wante the truth as they saw it. To a "T", everyone pledged their support. "Sure, I'll do that... no problem." Then, when it comes time to actually have the affidavit done, they all back out. Nobody wants to get involved. Nobody wants to take sides. I'm not particularly asking for anyone to take sides, just tell the truth. The thing is, the truth is on my side... not my WW's. Everybody knows that and they don't want to be the one who's testamony is the deciding factor. I think it comes down to the question of "...do I do what is right or do I do what is comfortable?" It seems to me that nobody wants to go on record and tell the truth because it puts them in an uncomfortable spot.
The question I have is am i justified in asking these people to go on record and tell the truth about what they saw? and if so, how do I convince people that it is the right thing to do? And I guess, is it the right thing to do... for these people to go on record, or is it right for them to refuse to get involved at all? What is the general consensus here?