I called my h to arrange the pickup of gifts for Christmas and it happened that he was at an after work company cocktail party. His cell phone was left on the bar. First SHE picked up the phone and maybe I hung up one her. I called again and her h picked up said he was not there and hung up on me. This is a game. My h called the next day and said "I don't know what is going on, I was not there, I do not want this to be an issue". I said "You should be more selective about who you think is so wonderful". This was a really demeaning circumstance. Any feedback???<BR>Thanks,<BR>Cathy

I think you may want to get some more postings. I am a newbie around here. I can be here for ya. Being that I am a betrayer myself. I can tell ya that will never work! All affairs are almost the same. An unmet emotional need. I think you may want to talk to WilliamJ. He was the one that helped me so much. The number one thing is DO NOT GIVE UP!! Start on Plan A. This is vital right now. YOu have to be there for your H. Ic an tell you he is on an emotional roller coaster from hell and isnt even aware of it. This was the hardest thing I have ever done in my life. I regreat ot so bad. Right now im in withdrawal from the OM and it is horrid! But I have made the decision of a lifetime, to keep my marriage. <BR>I know this is alot of pain for you right now. Just get in Plan A and get started on it as soon as possible. Do not criticize your H. Also, talk to WilliamJ. He will probaly respond to your post anyway. He is great! There are alot fo great people on here. We will all be here for you! Just come in here Post and Reply. It is amazing how this works! <BR>God Bless and your in my prayers