k, first of all...<BR> <BR>Dylan is a little on the miffed side... nothing to serious here, just a few little 'eek's...<BR>1st of all, last week she let me sleep in and while I was sleeping she stuck these cute little notes everywhere (post-its with love notes on them) When I wole up, I saw one right away and smiled. I didn't notice the others right away - I have been finding them all week and each time it brings a smile to my heart. Meanwhile though, Dylan isn't always present when I find them and misses my reaction. Consequently she feels like I wasn't touched by them, which is soooooooo untrue.<BR>The other thing centers around a friend of mine. This fella's wife is somewhat difficult and whiney... ok somewhat more than somewhat... any way, he has to ask permission before he does anything. His W and mine are virtually at opposite ends of just about any spectrum you could think of. Problem is he likes to commiserate with me. This is causing big probs with Dylan as he treats her as if she is just as controlling and petulant as his own wife- usually in a joking lighthearted manner, but repeatedly so that it seems as if there is something behind it. I'm actually answering my own question as to how to deal with this as I write this post, so I guess I don't really need much advice...<BR>ok....<BR>thanks everyone...<BR>deut<P> lol

sorry about that-I goofed <p>[This message has been edited by heartache (edited January 12, 2000).]

Hey Deut-<P><BR>You just need to think fast and hard about what little things you might be able to do to surprise her and put a smile in her heart-ya know? I mean really-if she is giving you positive strokes then all you have to do is give her positive strokes. Be creative. I have gone as far as slipping notes or cards in my H's lunch inside his food (I put them in plastic wrap first so they aren't ruined when he does find them). There are all sorts of ideas-in fact-read my psot from earlier today.<P>As far as your friend and that situation-tell soulloss that heartache said it isn't worth worrying about (something she might say to me eh). <P>In my case the OW's H told me after all was in the open that he always thought I had my H on a string. Now tell me why if a man likes spending time at home or with his wife why that appears to be "on a string"? I dunno-but I don't care either. I think it is common courtesy to ask before heading out the door to be gone for who knows how long. It isn't like I can just up and go and expect him to watch kids and have everything in order when I decide to return home. <P>Did that help at all? I tried <P>HUGS-one for both of ya.<P>------------------<BR>*heartache*<BR>"Loyalty Is A Two Way Street"<BR><p>[This message has been edited by heartache (edited January 12, 2000).]

Deut, You know, I don't think there is anything that we can tell you about how absolutely incredible your wife is. I think you already know all of it...don't you? I will make the suggestion that, since you know this, why don't you SHOW her how absolutely incredible she is!!! Do something wild, and unexpected! You know she deserves it.<P>Oh..by the way, Dylan.., you are not allowed to read what you just read, okay? So, go away and forget it!!(chuckle chuckle)<P>Deut- my e-mail is: phishbane@yahoo.com<BR>

You made me laugh!!!<P>Not b/c it was silly, but b/c you figured it out so quickly and I just knew you would!!<P>You're doing great!!!<P> <P>Lori

Well thanks for your replies all... I sure appreciate the replies. <BR>You guys are the greatest!<BR>Deut<BR> <BR>