<p><br> Question: I'm 40 years of age and contemplating marriage with a woman I've been<br> seeing for six years. Sex is great between us however I'm not sure if what I feel is<br> love. <p> My job brings me in contact with other women and I fantasize yet I realize my lady<br> friend would leave me if she ever caught me cheating. However I feel I would if I<br> could get away with it. <p> My lady friend will not wait any longer and either we marry or she leaves. So we are<br> setting a date. Friends have told me that if you are having doubts about your<br> marriage you shouldn't go through, but I'm not sure if such confusion is normal. <p> I care for my girlfriend a great deal and we have been through a lot<br> together, but I am not sure how to read my feelings. I've often thought it's a 50-50<br> proposition and I have constructed a pre-marriage agreement so I'll give it a try. <p> But at the same time I'm thinking I could do "better." Yet don't really know what<br> better is except perhaps "younger" (my lady friend is 33). <p> I can't decide if what I feel is love. Or if I'm extremely emotionally co-dependent on<br> this woman after the years we've been together. <p> At a loss with what I feel. Any advice would be very much appreciated.

WELL AT LEAST YOUR SEX LIFE IS GREAT. MINE IS NEAR DYSFUNCTIONAL BECAUSE OF MY WEIGHT. HOWE VER I DO THINK I CAN OFFER TO YOU SOME ADVICE. IS THIS WOMEN ALSO YOUR BEST FRIEND? DO YOU FEEL THE GRASS MAY BE GREENER ON THE OTHERSIDE? THE FACT THAT YOU FANTASY TO ME IS NORMAL AND HEALTHY. WHAT YOU DO WITH THESE FANTASIES IS UP TO YOU. YOU EITHER BRING THEM TO YOUR MAKING LOVE SESSIONS BETWEEN YOU AND HER OR YOU GO OUT AND HAVE A AFFAIR. THINK ABOUT HOW YOU MIGHT FEEL IF YOU DID. WOULD YOU WANT TO HURT HER THAT WAY IF SHE FOUND OUT, COULD YOU KEEP IT TO YOURSELF AND NOT TELL A SOUL. THE FACT YOU HAVE BEEN WITH HER FOR 6 YEARS SEEMS TO ME YOU GOT A GOOD SHOE THERE WITH A GOOD FIT. CODEPENDENT? NO, TO ME THAT IS WHEN THERE IS CONFLICT, PHYSICAL ABUSE AND HATE AND YOU JUST CANT LEAVE FOR WHATEVER THE REASON. SEEMS TO ME YOU GOT A GOOD CASE OF THE JITTERS. RELAX AND WELCOME THE FACT THAT SOMEONE REALLY LOVES YOU. WANTS YOU IN THEIR WORLD TO BUILD ONE WITH YOU. GOOD LUCK TO YOU......