Since I last posted, the roller-coaster ride with my husband has gotten worse. things are absolutely nornal as long as i don't bring-up any of the issues. When i do, then I get accused of just wanting to "fight" and arguments, slinging matches and insults get hurled at me thick and fast!!!<p>There's just no consistency in his behaviour. He can be the most loving, caring man as long as I don't say anything - but turns into a vicious individual the minute i say something. Of course, in all of this, I have just been getting angrier and more agrressive - which doesn't help.<p>I'm not coping with this anymore. I've left once before and all that happened was that he got more and more angry and I feel like I was emotionally blackmailed into coming back - so I don't think that's an option.<p>Can anyone help - where to from here ?? i need some advice fast!!

BJ,<p>You said that you were getting counseling. Are you still? I'd suggest that you do.<p>If the major problem is still the MIL, you've probably got your work cut out for you. A suggestion would be for you to ask HIM if there are any areas of the marriage that he'd like YOU to work on. Listen to him carefully. Try to put a plan into place to do this, following the "Policy of Joint Agreement".<p>You may be able to teach him the methods here by applying them yourself. It's not easy, and it doesn't seem fair, but it may be a decent way to get it done.<p>