Hello,Im 31 and have been married for 14 yrs.<BR>I have two girls,and very smart and are streight A students.I went out with my hsb to a lounge, and Invited my husb sisters to<BR>come along.We have all been under alot of <BR>grief.My husb mother is dying with Lung Cancer.My sister in-laws have been very mean,to me in the past,We were all dancing and haveing fun for a change.My husbands so called friend ask me to dance,he thought it was my birthday(Long story).I said yes,By the time I danced with him for 2min,I realized that this guy was not a respectful man at all to me nor my husb.My sister in law<BR>made a comment to my husb,said don't worry lets you and I dance..I knew I had danced with one of our friends before with out my husb getting mad,But then again his sisters were always lying about me anyway.But my husb was escorted out the bar.I left behinde him, and noticed he was mad at me as well,I went to pull his arm back to talk to him,but he pushed me off of him.The cop at the door was watching him anyway,The cop yelled out get him!I seen then arrest my husb and through him on the ground.Well His sisters were giving me hell.Why did you dance with this guy?,Then his sister put her hands on me while I was cring covering my face she grabbed my wrist and said why did you dance with this guy?I told her to get the F off of me,And that she had danced with all kinds of men before.she said I've never danced with another man with out asking my husb.LOL I never ment to hurt my husb in anyway.But to hear her,I was feeling all over my self on the dance floor and that I yelled out Why did I dance with this $5.25 an hour man.This is what the B went back and said to his family.Also told his dying mom when I and my husb told both of his sisters not to tell her.Well to make a long story short,My husb<BR>still feels like Im the one at fought,But they should have not of left me at the bar.I called my brother,Because I was drinking and could not drive home.What do you think?<BR>My husbands sister's are very controlling and this I hate to say but so is his mother. I Have been through the ringer with this whole family.If you would like to read what I wrote with parts of my life with him for 17 years,Oh what kind of hell I have put up with,With his family just read the post.<BR>Thanks again for your response..Florida

Man,<BR>What a mess! I can't believe this all came about over a dance. I mean you were dancing with a "Friend" of your Husbands, I mean why would he be friends with someone who doesn't respect you and would pull that kind of crap?<BR>Your sister-in-laws have no place to say anything, it is not thier business- they shouldn't of got involved and that must be so frustrating. This should be between you and your H and his friend only. <BR>I your H a jelous guy? He has to trust you, I mean there is nothing wrong with a dance and if he has friends like that then maybe he should tell this guy to take a hike! <BR>i have a jelous H and many times I have dealt with stupid things over a dance, he too also has a "friend" who has made passes at me, but for years I have tried to get through to him that he has to trust me and its not MY fault if someone pulls that kind of crap. For many years he blamed me for other guys making passes at me - I think I have finally got through to him that he has to trust me and that I have no intention or desire of cheating on him. <BR>Don't let your sister-in-laws get to you - if you can try to limit your time with them, they obviously are not good for your relationship. <BR>As well, remember alchohol was involved and that can really make things alot worse (know from experience) I have realized that my H jelousy is worse when he drinks. <BR>I really feel for you - I hope things get better.<p>[This message has been edited by fed up (edited September 19, 2000).]

I don't think you are at fault for what happened. You can not control what other people think or do. If your husband didn't like you dancing with this guy he could have told you in an adult manner. I am guessing your husband doesn't think he is that important to you. Which if that is the case he needs to tell you instead of acting in an irrational way. As for your sister-in-laws they need to mind their own business.<BR>

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR><BR>By the time I danced with him for 2min,I realized that this guy was not a respectful man at all to me nor my husb.<BR><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>What happened that made you realize this and did you continue to dance with him after the realization?

This guy started putting his hands,Were<BR>he shouldn't have.I moved his hand and he <BR>made a comment Are you worried about your<BR>husband,I told him im married,He said well<BR>F*** him. So I left him standing on the dance floor.(This guy was my H Friend!)I<BR>thought!My husband introduced us as he knew<BR>him.But not very well.This guy was old anuff to be my father.Hello!My husband told me later he realy didn't know him.He said this<BR>so called guy was also married.I was amazed.But to put this very plain.My husb sisters were there,Even though they are so<BR>dame manipulating they were looking to start<BR>trouble with me and my husb.They try all the time anyway.My husb did not see this guy put<BR>his hands on my butt.But I felt disrespected as a married women,When this guy knew I was<BR>married.Now I've danced before with a few<BR>of my husband friends and this has never happend.I know I could have decked him one.But then my husband would have realy laid into him.But you see my sister in-laws went out back with this guy.Why I don't know. They said they were going to kick his<BR>Butt.Ya,Right! They needed to blame someone for all that happend,And to carrie back to there mom, and the rest of the family.Im tired of liveing my life for them.I'm the lady that walked away from this.I can only say maybe my husband dosent trust me,Or he acts like he dosent in front of his family.He has to<BR>belive in me.If he had never wanted me to dance with anyone other then him,Then he should have told me 18 years ago when we were dateing.Or 14 years ago when we got married.All I can say is his sisters won again.But they will never make my life pure hell again.I should have thought twice of what his sisters would have said anyway.But Im to the point I don't care what they think of me.I know Im a very good wife and ment no<BR>harm to my husband.If you knew his family then you would know how this all got started.Im sorry if I sound a bit cold.But I've put up with this for 18 years.It has never stoped.I thought I was married to him.Not to his entire family.Any advice?<BR>I truly love my husband and I can't stand his family.But I still belive in what the good book says.Thats forgive!I don't forget!