My husband & I have been separated for six months (together 4yrs, married 2). This is the 2nd time we've broken up over domestic violence issues & I filed for divorce. But I've hated single life, loved him, missed him;he's agreed to counselling, but is now hurt & angered that during the separation I had a brief relationship w/another man. We each have our own places, and have been spending alternating nights at each. I want to keep both for a while; I think it's safer that way, but he wants just one place together.Counselling starts this week (2x/wk for me, 1x/wk for him, w/some joint sessions too). With all that (& me working on depression/ self esteem issues -- being treated w/Luvox now), where do we start to rebuild??? We love each other; have lots of work to do, but each is a big issue & there are so many of them! I would appreciate any advice and maybe a plan of attack in healing. Thanks!!! nmh