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#61922 12/12/01 12:56 AM
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Having read through a number of these posts....I have a couple of questions that are bothering me...<p>A. Your having that romantic interlude and your spouse starts to talk about the matters of the day...That would constitute a moment breaker wouldn't it?<p>B. Your in the mood and she isn't....what are some strageties to overcome this?<p>Any commments would be apprecieated....<p>Thanks

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Well, not necessarily...couldn't you just whisper 'we'll talk about that later, right now I just want to make love to you' and keep kissing her? It would work for me.<p>As for getting me in the mood, my H could kiss me, caress me, cuddle with me, smell my hair and tell me it smells good, tell me how he's thought about me all day and how good it would feel to be in bed with me...etc.. I think sometimes men don't know/forget that for a lot of women, lovemaking begins way before the bedroom. A compliment, hand holding, neck nuzzling...these are part of foreplay for me. And sometimes I really just don't feel like. And other times, my H can just look at me and say "let's go to the bedroom--I want you"...but maybe that's just me.<p>You could even talk dirty in her ear...tell her all the naughty things you want to do to her...<p>I gotta go now....gotta take a cold shower!

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Whispering dirty in her ear only gets her hand swatting my mouth.........

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Geez, get that woman some prozac! [img]images/icons/wink.gif" border="0[/img]

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Hey Dell! Just as a point of reference when she speaks of the days events NEVER say, "Gee I glad to know I'm so interesting". It don't work man. Don't go there. My W does that too. I just comment on the statement and change the action so to speak. Do what I can to get her back to the matter at hand as best I can. That's what works here most times. If she's too distracted I just give it up and talk about the days events. It's a learned behavior I admit. Frustrating but it beats getting mad and having a fight. And if I talk dirty like freddyb she really gets repulsed. Guess she needs prozac too! But she cain't have mine [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img]

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what, no share-y, Jerry? That's okay--got bottles of welbutrin and zillions of Zoloft [img]images/icons/cool.gif" border="0[/img]
Ever think of asking about and discussing 'current events' before bedtime, guys? Maybe a 'how was your day, dear' or 'what's on your mind today'. Just a thought. Maybe get that out of the way over dinner then it's smooth sailing on the sea of love later?


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