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#63040 10/10/03 06:15 PM
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Has anyone read this book? Results, Opinions?

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I think it is excellent, but I did not do the exercises, and that is the true test. I learned very little from it that I did not already know from reading "His Needs, Her Needs". However, I thought going through the Emotional Needs Questionnaire with my wife was many times more valuable than reading HN/HN, hence my comment on the exercises.

As far as I know, HN/HN and "The 5 Love Languages" are the only two books on the market that really deal well with individual differences in how we receive love. Because of that, they are far superior to the books that say "men are like this and women are like that", at least for those of us that do not fit the typical male/female profiles - and most of us don't, at least not exactly.

However, I see by your other posts that you are trying to recover from an affair. My book recommendations would be (in order) "Surviving an Affair", by Harley, and "Torn Asunder" by Carder. Read them together with your husband. Discuss each chapter. DO THE EXERCISES!!! Survivng an Affair contains a highly condensed version of "His Needs, Her Needs" so it is not really necessary to buy both books, though I admit that the chapter on Sex in HN/HN is worth the price of the book all by itself, even after reading SAA. There are other good books as well, and the Love Languages one is a good one. There are a couple more books recommended in the link in my signature line, as well as a few on-line resources that you may find helpful.

<small>[ October 10, 2003, 11:41 PM: Message edited by: johnh39 ]</small>

#63042 10/11/03 05:49 AM
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Hi SheWill,

I read this a short time ago and found it really good. Too late for my M I'm sure but I went through it as a family discussion with our kids and learnt a lot about them.

I made up a chart to look at when birthdays etc come around. I haven't read any of the Harleys books so nothing to compare to but this was definitely worth it for me.

Fo8

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Excellent book and I highly recommend it. We used it as the basis for a marriage encounter group at church. However, I do agree that the exercises must be done, with a willing attitude, for the full benefits.

W and I both dropped the ball in meeting EN's. I hope to get the chance to pick the ball up again, if she will return to me.

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Thanks everybody for the helful replies. I think I'll get the book and see what we can do with it. John -Thank you for your more in depth research on me. I am sort of recovering from an affair, and also trying to heal a marriage that I had made ac hoice to leave and then changed my mind.. Very confusing....

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This is an excellent book also if you have children There is one ( The Five Love Languages for children" This is especially helpful if you tend to butt heads with one of your children

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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Mother4:
<strong> This is an excellent book also if you have children There is one ( The Five Love Languages for children" This is especially helpful if you tend to butt heads with one of your children </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Dr. Chapman also has a book titled: "Five Love Languages of Teenagers" which is most insightful for parents.

#63047 03/01/04 06:36 PM
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"Good Loving, Great Sex" by Dr. Rosie King.

A very good book, and she hits on love languages, as well. I found it very practical and useful. My ex-husband did not. His loss. My future husband (?) will benefit from my having read it, however... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />


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