I think I understand the policy of Joint Agreement but am having trouble applying it in my marriage. I try to negotiate for things like how much time he spend on the computer or when he will see a counselor or a budget that works for both of us.
He seems to agree then renig or won't agree to anything.

I am having trouble understanding how this works when the other person is uncooperative or doesn't comply.

What do you do?

All I can speak from is my experience...you can not negotiate until there is mutual respect.
I am under the same roof of a skilled manipulator. There is no respect, and therefore, no REAL negotiation. You can continue to try, but without mutual respect, it is more an attempt to control your spouse than a true negotiation.
We spend a lot of time in separate rooms, separate schedules, and when he is home, I am on the computer A LOT...it's a good escape...you're there, but you aren't....you sober, home, and not running around....think about it.
Hush

Hush,

WHo are you referring to when you say "think about it"
Sober, home and not running around?

Care to elaborate?

My H is a skilled manipulator, too. When he moved out he took personal papers of mine - transcripts, birth certificates, that kind of thing. I asked for them back in exchange for some stuff that he said he wanted. I prepared two bags for the meeting. One with a "couple" of the things he asked for and one with the rest of it. Sure enough I received ONE TRANSCRIPT from him, and the seal was broken on the envelope. So I gave him the bag with the printer ink in it, but not the power cord for the printer.

He screamed and had a fit. Oh well. You respect me, I respect you. You treat me like the fool, guess what?

Now I'm not sure how that helps with your question about applying POJA to your own circumstance, but my H is learning not to mess with me, and he is learning the hard way.

Keep in mind, this is NOT scriptural, and I would not follow my own example if I were counseling me. The Bible says to just do the right thing, and you will be rewarded for remaining steadfast. I just keep crawling out of the spirit and back into my flesh...(sigh) Well thank God HE loves me anyway!