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I found out today that my divorce was final as of Friday, Aug. 25th. Well...it's finally over. After 15 years, 3 months, and 1 day, my marriage is over. I'm not quite sure how I feel. Kinda numb right now. Just thought I'd let you guys know. I guess my next step is suing the ho for "alienation of affection". I'm supposed to contact a lawyer next week about it. <P>------------------<BR>Blessed be.<BR>****************<BR>Keridwen<P>Keridwen_7@yahoo.com
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I'd love to hear what happens with that!<P>It's hard to know what to say other than I'm sorry for how badly you feel. I think that it's strange to find out on Tuesday that your divorce was final last Friday. I always thought we'd be standing in front of the judge when he dissolves it, wondering if I could find the strength to walk out. I would almost rather find out later, STBX doesn't deserve to see any more tears face to face from me. Take it easy.<P>------------------<BR><BR>Kathy
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I know you didn't want this, and I am so sorry for you. It is a hard thing to go through, I know. <BR>Hopefully you can get this behind you soon and just know you are a good and loving person, who deserves happiness in their lives. <BR>Keep posting here, we all understand and will be here for you.<P>------------------<BR>Susan
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{{{{{Keri}}}}}}}}}<P>I'm so screwed up I can't even post today.<P>I'm right behind you with the divorce. I didn't know thats how it works, maybe I already am??? Now I'm confused.<P>Alienation of affection, can you do that? <P>Hugs and prayers, Dana<BR>
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Thanks everyone...it feels so weird. <P>{{{Dana}}} saw your post on my other thread...thanx. Since our divorce was uncontested, we didn't have to appear in court. Everything was worked out ahead of time...property, child support, visitation. He basically bought his way out of the marriage. And yes, at least in Ga. you can sue for alienation of affection. There is a lawyer locally who just started doing this and has won 2 cases thus far. I doubt I'll see any serious $, but it will be somewhat vindicating for me. Thanks for your support. <P>------------------<BR>Blessed be.<BR>****************<BR>Keridwen<P>Keridwen_7@yahoo.com
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{{{{{{{KERI}}}}}}}<P>I'm sorry you are hurting, but, take it from me.... it does get better. My D has been final for just over 6 months, and it is getting better.<P>Call some friends or family and go out tonight.... take care of yourself.<P>Thoughts & Prayers,<BR>B
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<BR>{{{{{{{KERI}}}}}}}<P>Hang in there!......it will get better! ![[Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]](http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/images/icons/smile.gif) <P>Take some time for your self and go smell the ROSES!!! <P>Gina<P><BR><P>------------------<BR>"If we deny love that is given to us,if we refuse to give love because we fear pain or loss,then our lives will be empty,our loss greater!"-----Anonymous----
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{{{{{{{{{Keri}}}}}}}}}}...<P>I'm sorry it came to this... the divorce...<P>You have my prayers... <P>Your strength will grow!<P> <P>Jim
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{{{{Keri}}}}<P> Really sorry to hear this.<BR> Now's the time to work on you.<BR> Find out what YOU want out of life.<BR> I know,that's easier said than done,right now,but it does get easier.Trust Murphy on that one.<BR> <BR>Come on over to Seattle,and I'll take you up the Space Needle! <P> ~~Murph
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<B>{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{KERI}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}</B><P>I don't know whether to say I'm sorry or that it's for the best. But one thing I will say is that you have my support. I know you say you feel numb. Your emotions are probably all screwed up right now. I can only imagine. It won't be long for me either now. <P>I will continue to pray for you and yours. <P>------------------<BR><B>Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change...Courage to change the things I can...And the wisdom to know the difference.</B><P>lady_divine77@yahoo.com
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I found that I was suddenly single again when I read the divorces granted that were in the Court Section of my newspaper. The divorce was granted on May 1 and I read about it on May 3 in my classroom just before the students came in.<P>He didn't have the intestinal fortitude to tell me beforehand. Oh well, I know what a coward he is.<P>I am so sorry that you had to find out in this way too.<P>Martha
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Keridwen,<BR>I am thinking of you.....<BR>I hope that you are taking some time for you.<P>Life rarely unfolds as we hope and dream, but we must keep dreaming and keep hope alive for the goals we have for ourselves.<BR>
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I just wanted to let you know that I am thinking of you and pray that God will give you strength during this time.<P>Jen
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Keri...n<P>{{{{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}}}}}<P>sometimes things happen for a reason, and<BR>we don't know the reason yet, but somewhere there will be a better life for you.<P>Hey, come to think of it, Nashville isn't that far, why don't you come join us, we will liven up your spirits, and maybe get you a few moments away the spot your stuck in now!<P>give it some thought.<P>thl
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Keridwen,<P>I know how it feels. I am fine. A couple months later and I feel nothing. I feel real and I feel good. I never went before a judge either....just to the court house and sat out in the front area. Looked at him a few times and felt nothing. Maybe that helped, to see him and feel nothing.<P>Sending hugs your way......I know that this is not where either of us wanted to be, but for some reason it is where God wants us to be.<P>Nancy
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{{{{{everyone}}}}}}<P>Thanks for all your support. I didn't expect this many people to respond. It still feels weird. There's a part of me that's really sad, but there's a part of me that's relieved too. After all the he!! he's put me through, I am, in some ways, glad I am no longer married to him. He's not the person I thought he was. But then I think of the good times we had for 14 years and I feel like this is all a dream. Not real. I never thought this would happen to me. I always thought he was my soulmate and we would be together forever. He used to feel this way about me too. Now, he's got a "new" soulmate. Amazingly, I am still pretty numb. I don't think it has hit me yet. I dread when it does. <P><P>------------------<BR>Blessed be.<BR>****************<BR>Keridwen<P>Keridwen_7@yahoo.com
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Keri ~<P>My D will be finalized tomorrow......I know I'm feeling numb right now. I'm the one going before the judge, stbx has never done one thing about moving our D forward other than complaining about the asset/debt split. He thought he should get everything and that I should pay for everything..... ![[Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]](http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/images/icons/mad.gif) Boy, was he wrong!<P>I know that I look towards this situation with dread. It is not what I wanted - but a person can only take so much. I guess we need to see that we must be even stronger now than we were during separation. There is no more pretending to myself that things are going to change. I miss him - the person I married - but, he doesn't exist anymore. Time to move on and stop looking back.<P>I know it's hard....{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}
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