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We dated 18 months, married for nearly 17 years. I think he started an EA about 3 1/2 months ago, that's when he changed into an evil alien. I'm sure we had a happy marriage before then.<P>SAU
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We met June 12, 1993. We had our first daughter on October 15, 1994. We got married on November 4, 1995 and we are now separated as of August 16, 2001. All of our birthdays are this month and then our anniversary is coming up too. Right now I do not see a light at the end of the tunnel. We continuously fight about the same thing and still, neither of us is willing to bend. As of today, I told him I will no longer contact him for anything. The ball is in his court. [img]images/icons/frown.gif" border="0[/img] [img]images/icons/frown.gif" border="0[/img]
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HI! Thanks for responding! [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img]<P>The spread is fairly even so far, except there are three people who had relationships for a total of 17 years, and three for a total if 18 years....hmmm what happens at THAT time in a marriage?<P>Keep going guys!
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16 years as of 5 Oct 2001<BR>met 1 June 1985<BR>asked her to marry me 15 June 1985<BR>married 5 Oct 1985<P>All at God's request. I am thankful for her because I have gotten much closer to God. I would have loved to gotten closer to God and her with the enormous amount of pain though.<p>[ October 12, 2001: Message edited by: professorg ]
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We could have met 20 years ago, when I was a freshman in college and she was a senior (she says she vaguely remembers me). Or we could have met 13 years ago, when I started grad school and she was mid-way through. <P>But we actually met 11 years ago, bought a house together 9 years ago, and got married 8 years ago. Her itch started around the 7 year mark, typically enough.
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I've known my husband since June 1987. <P>Married in October 1988. <P>D-day was November 1999 (11 years)<P>Separated since January 2000.<P>13th Anniversary is October 22, 2001.<P>We're still not divorced....gonna happen this year tho.....<P>Aloha,<BR>Ms.O
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Known my W since her mother was pregnant with her.<P>Good friends since she was 18, 1989.<BR>Started dating in April of 1996, five months after my mother died.<BR>Married September, 1997.<BR>She asked for divorce end of July/begining of August 2001, 5 months after my father died. [img]images/icons/frown.gif" border="0[/img] [img]images/icons/frown.gif" border="0[/img] [img]images/icons/frown.gif" border="0[/img] [img]images/icons/frown.gif" border="0[/img]
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Hmmm,<BR>16-18 years has the most responses.<P>vb_guy, did you get my email?
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First date, November 1, 1986, which was also his 40th birthday. Married on Valentines day 1987. First marriage for both of us. No kids. Separation is imminent as the 15th anniversary creeps closer. <P>Along similar lines, I learned something interesting at the veteran center last week. My H is a vietnam vet who's never received counselling for ptsd. When I spoke with the counsellor, she said virtually all of her new clients are between ages 52 and 55. She said physiological changes make something (didn't quite catch the term) in the brain thinner, and things which have been stuffed for years can no longer be stuffed.
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Okay!<P>Poll results so far9taken from D/D, GQII, EN and In Recovery boards:<P>Of 58 respondants:<P>17 yrs: 9<BR>18 yrs: 7<BR>14 yrs: 5<BR>11 yrs: 5<BR>16 yrs: 4<BR>23,24 yrs: 3<BR>All other yrs: 2 or 1<P>What happens in those teen years of a relationship???<P>Anyone else?
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Heello,<BR>I think we are the average:<P>dating from V/1979<BR>married IV/1982<BR>OD IX/1982<BR>YD III/1990<P>D day XI/1999 (17 years of marriage,20 together)<BR>separated VII/2000 moved in OW X/2000<BR>divorced VII/2001<P>Still loving him and hoping we'd be together one day<P>D<BR>still living with OW
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two children 15 and 10 <BR>* seperated 6-15-01<BR>* Together 20 years<BR>* Married 18 years
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dated for 3 mos<BR>loved together before we were married for <BR>3 mos<BR>married for 16 yrs 11mos and 18 days<P>so a total of 17+ years
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together 8 and half years married 5 and half of that
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here goes:<P>Met: May 25, 1991 (dated 2 yrs)<BR>Married: August 14, 1993 (married 8 yrs)<BR>D-Day for WS's EA:February 21, 2001<BR>D-Day for WS's PA:May 31, 2001<BR>No children<BR>*Still married and working things out* [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img]
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Dated for 2 years, then MARRIED FOR 20 YEARS<BR>Had three kids (11, 16, & 17).<BR>Been in counseling for 6 months.<BR>Separated for 2 months.
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* Together 21 years<BR>* Married 16 years<BR>* 2 children 18y/o & 14 y/o<BR>* Separated March 8, 2001<BR>* Divorce not final/ but any time now.<p>[ October 16, 2001: Message edited by: idostylin ]
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ok, here it goes....<P>Started dating 10/76 Exh..16...me 17<BR>married 9/81<BR>first baby 9/82<BR>second baby 7/86<BR>Met his London W**re 9/00<BR>D day 10/99<BR>H left 6/00<BR>H filed for Divorce 9/00<BR>Divorce final 4/01<P>Sooooo...dated 5 years before we were married... married 18 years at D day....married 19 years when Divorce was final... we would have had our 20th just this past Sept/01.<P>PS:... I hate him !!<P>scoick
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