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Laura,

I am very sorry that this happened to you. Please seriously consider reporting him to the police. This is way too dangerous.

If you were my sister, I would beat him up for you.

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Laura,

Sounds so familiar to me....it WAS my life too. Please take IsIt2Late's advice...get out, call the police, do something. You don't deserve to live like this.

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Isit2late,

Thanks for the thought. Perhaps my heart is too big and my brain too small.


Mitzi, sorry to hear that life was familiar to you.


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Aspen Tree --
My H is not scum. He made some terrible mistakes. He also choked me, and I still have a lump in the middle of my forehead from when he pushed on it on 1/3/98. I felt like he was going to push my skull right into my brain. Scary, much scarier than his breaking my arm.

Guys like those need to WAKE UP, and they don't wake up if their partners COVER UP and take the blame, which is what I did, even for a broken arm.

I was part of the problem. I needed to give him the dignity to be a separate human being, not one whose actions were determined by mine. I needed to hold him accountable for his actions.
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John, Somehow, I missed this post earlier and wanted to respond.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by IsIt2late:
<strong> ...If I was to report her, I would be completely ridiculed. I know this because I am an assistant district attorney who has discussed this matter at length with my colleagues (not that I have been hit, but what they think of abusive wives). They all have told me that they are very suspicious of any claim that a wife has abused her husband, especially when there is a distinctive size/strength advantage...

...However, if you are a husband married to a wife who hits, you can leave, put up with it, or report it and hope that you might get a police officer and prosecutor who are in the miniscule minority of people who believe that a woman can be abusive.

Sorry for the vent. </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">John, I had a automotible accident and had fractured two ribs, while in uniform and wearing my vest. I probably would have been injured much worse without the vest. Anyway, two weeks after and just into the mending phase for the bones, my wife, who is 5'2" and all of 110 lbs. is in the middle of a screaming fit and punches me in the chest with both fists, refracturing both ribs. I am 5'10" and 190 lbs. and very muscular. I go to the hospital where the x-rays confirm this and I spend the night. All documented except for the how.

As an officer, I have taken dozens of domestic violence reports and I also know first hand that the husband would be rediculed and not believed. I can only sympathize as I too, have been there.

I rationalized the behavior as having been caused by hormonal swings by my wife being pregnant with out first. Her moods did swing wildly, sometimes minute by minute. I could not envision bringing charges against the mother of our soon to be born child.

Just wanted to share the experience.

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