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Does how many women a man has been with sexually (BEFORE marriage..no others are allowed AFTER marriage, of course) have any bearing on his manliness, lack thereof, or your perception of his manlisness?

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The only thing I think might affect my decision would be if he'd been with a lot of women before marriage. I do believe God wants us to wait and not be with anyone before we're married.

But unfortunately few people wait until marriage anymore, and I was in the non-waiting category myself (I was also not a Christian when I married).

So if I met, say, the man of my dreams but then found he'd been with someone before marriage, it wouldn't be a dealbreaker. If he'd been with no one and he was now 40, that would also be okay--once I was assured that he was attracted to women and that everything was indeed in working order, but that he was just saving himself.

But if he'd been with 25 women before he married, and he was married by the age of 25 or something, I'd probably be very nervous unless I was very, very sure he was a changed man.

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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by George Bailey:
<strong> Does how many women a man has been with sexually (BEFORE marriage..no others are allowed AFTER marriage, of course) have any bearing on his manliness, lack thereof, or your perception of his manlisness?

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GB </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Now .... no.

When I was in my 20s ... (sadly) yes, probably would have been my thought that he was a prude. BUT (here's my excuse ~LOL~) I was a child of the 60's. 'Free love' and all that crap.

Time and pain have enlightened me.

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Thanks, both of you, for replying. I am standing on my faith, and with only one small exception, I have be true to my faith (RC) and have kept myself (physically) very much to myself. In today's world, I feel like a bit of a freak, to use a less brutal term for the one I was thinking of.

I hope that SHE comes along soon, I am tired of waiting. As you can see by my sigline, it has been a while! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />

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GB,

In my most humble opinion, I personally prefer if a gentleman has NOT been with many ladies, because then anything we learn, we learn together.

If a man is with a lot of ladies sexually while he is "single", to me that indicates a lack of self-control, self-worth, and morality. On the other hand, if a man has a little sexual experience but has been very selective and committed, it indicates a man of quality, character, and morals. This is a man who's "manliness" is found more from being a "right man" than from the crazy society standards. To me this is a man who is a HERO.

JMHO,


CJ

P.S. Ladies, I don't know if you know this, but GB is about the most handsome man I've ever seen. When I saw his pic the first time, it took my breath away!!

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Dear CJ,

You are one of the first people I met here at MB in August of 2001....wow, that time went fast!

I wonder how long it has been since you've had your eyeglasses checked?

Did you know that it has been your encouragement at low times that has helped me with my faith? I pray that I live up to my faith. To know that there are good women out there like you helps a man like me do that.

God Bless You CJ, make sure you get your eyes checked!!!


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George Bailey,

-- Does how many women a man has been with sexually (BEFORE marriage..no others are allowed AFTER marriage, of course) have any bearing on his manliness, lack thereof, or your perception of his manlisness?

TR--No, it has no bearing on his manliness at all.

Does the man treat women with respect? If not, then he's not much of a man in my book--

His character plays more of a role in his manliness to me than how many women he's had sex with.

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(I think) Mel Gibson said this (paraphrasing):

A man's a good lover when he can love one woman for the rest of her life - NOT a bunch of different women for a little while.

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It would depend. I went through a very wild streak when I was young. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> Okay, I was a slut. I totally regret it now. I was living a HUGE lie about who I really was.

Now, while I love sex, I have no plans to get intimate with a man until such time as everything is aligned. First, I'll need to be divorced or reconciled. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

So, if someone had a wild past, but saw the light, I'd be very comfortable. If a man is just sleeping with anything he can bag, I'd run and far.

If the gentleman was waiting, I'd be pleased, provided he seemed to be attracted to me and actually want it.


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