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#79510 06/19/03 10:52 AM
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I believe that one of the reasons that marriages are so difficult to make work, is because young girls are raised by adult woman,but do not marry woman,thay marry men something thay know little of.

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then how would you explain those who were raised by dads!!??

check this out...lay your burden down.. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />
read the book of Hosea where God instructs him to marry a prostitute...very interesting..
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The Burden

"Why was my burden so heavy?"

I slammed the office door and leaned against it.

"Is there no rest from this life?" I wondered.

I stumbled over to my desk, dropped into my chair, and pressed my face into my arms to shut out the frustrations of my existence.

Wracked with deep body sobs, I cried, "Oh God, let me sleep. Let me sleep forever and never wake up!"

With more deep sobbing, I tried to will myself into oblivion, then welcomed the blackness that came over me.

Light surrounded me as I regained consciousness. I focused on its source: The figure of a man standing before a cross.

"My child," the person asked, "why did you want to come to me before I am ready to call you?"

"Lord, I'm sorry. It's just that

I just can not go on.
You see how hard it is for me.
Look at this awful burden on my back.
I simply can't carry it anymore."

"But haven't I told you to throw all of your burdens onto me, because I care for you? My yoke is easy, and my burden is light."

"I knew you would say that. But why does mine have to be so heavy?"

"My child, everyone in the world has a burden. Perhaps you would like to try a different one?"

"I can do that?"

He pointed to several burdens lying at his feet. "You may try any of these."

All of them seemed to be of equal size. But each was labeled with a name.

"There's Joan's," I said.

Joan was married to a wealthy businessman. She lived in a sprawling estate and dressed her three daughters in the prettiest designer clothes. Sometimes she drove me to church in her Cadillac when my own old car was broken.

"Let me try that one."

"How difficult could her burden be?" I thought.

The Lord removed my burden and placed Joan's on my shoulders. I sank to my knees beneath its weight.

"Take it off!" I said. "What makes it so heavy?"

"Look inside."

I untied the straps and opened the top. Inside was a figure of her mother-in-law, and when I lifted the figure out, it began to speak.
"Joan, you'll never be good enough for my son," it began.
"He never should have married you in the first place.
You're a terrible mother to my grandchildren "

Quickly, I placed the figure back in the pack and withdrew another.
It was Donna, Joan's youngest daughter.
Her head was bandaged from the surgery that had failed to resolve her epilepsy.
A third figure was Joan's brother.
Addicted to drugs, he had been convicted of killing a police officer.

"I see why her burden is so heavy,
Lord. But she's always smiling and helping others. I didn't realize "

"Would you like to try another?" He asked quietly.

I tested several.
Paula's felt heavy: She was raising four small boys without a father.
Debra's did too: A childhood of abuse and a marriage of emotional abuse.
When I came to Stefanie's burden,
I didn't even try.

I knew that inside I would find arthritis, old age, a demanding full-time job, and a beloved husband in a nursing home.

"They're all too heavy, Lord," I said.
"Give me back my own."

As I lifted the familiar load once again, it seemed much lighter than the others did.

"Lets look inside," he said.

I turned away, holding it close.

"That's not a good idea," I said.

"Why not?"

"There's a lot of junk in there."

"Let me see."

His gentle voice compelled me.
I opened my burden. He pulled out a brick.

"Tell me about this one."

"Lord, you know.
It's money.

I know we don't suffer like people in some countries or even the homeless here in America.
But we have no insurance, and when the kids get sick, we can't always take them to the doctor.
They've never been to a dentist.
And I'm tired of dressing them in hand-me-downs."

"My child, I will supply all of your needs
and your children's.
I've given them healthy bodies.
I will teach them that expensive clothing doesn't make a person valuable in my sight."

Then he lifted out the figure of a small boy.
"And this?" he asked.

"Andrew "

I hung my head, ashamed to call my son a burden.

"But, Lord, he's hyperactive.
He's not quiet like the other two.
He makes me so tired.
He's always getting hurt, and someone is bound to think I abuse him.
I yell at him all the time. I'm afraid that someday I may really hurt him ."

"My child,"
he said, "if you trust me,
I will renew your strength,
if you allow me to fill you with my spirit,
I will give you patience."

Then He took some pebbles from my burden.

"Yes, Lord," I said with a sigh.
"Those are small, but they're important to me.
I hate my hair. It's thin, and I can't make it look nice.

I can't afford to go to the beauty shop.
I'm overweight and can't stay on a diet.
I hate all my clothes. I hate the way I look!"

"My child, people look at your outward appearance,
but I look at your heart.

By my spirit you can gain self-control to lose weight.

But your beauty should not come from outward appearance.
Instead, it should come from your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in my sight."

My burden now seemed much lighter than before.

"I guess I can handle it now," I said.

"There is more,"
he said. "Hand me that last brick."

"Oh, you don't have to take that. I can handle it."

"My child, give it to me."

Again his voice compelled me.
He reached out his hand,
and for the first time I saw the ugly wound.

"But, Lord, this brick is so awful,
so nasty, so . . . Lord!
What happened to your hands?
They're so scarred!"

No longer focused on my burden,
I looked for the first time into his face. In his brow were ragged scars -
as though someone had pressed thorns into His flesh.

"Lord," I whispered. "what happened to you?"

His loving eyes reached deep into my soul.

"My child, you know.
Hand me the brick.
It belongs to me.
I bought it."

"How?"

"With my blood."

"But why, Lord?"

"Because I have loved you with an everlasting love.

Give the last brick to me."

I placed the filthy brick into his wounded palm.

It contained the entire dirt and evil of my life:
my pride,
my selfishness,
and the depression that constantly tormented me.

He turned to the cross and hurled my brick into the pool of blood at its base.
It hardly made a ripple.

"Now, my child, you need to go back.
I will be with you always.

When you are troubled, call to me and I will help you and show you things you cannot imagine now."

"Yes, Lord, I will call on you."

I reached to pick up my burden.

"You may leave that here if you wish.

You see all these burdens?

They are the ones that others have left at my feet.

Joan's, Paula's, Debra's, Ruth's.

When you leave your burden here, I carry it for you.

Remember, my yoke is easy and my burden is light."

As I placed my burden with him,
the light began to fade.

Yet, I heard him whisper,
"I will never leave you, nor forsake you."

A peace like I had never known flooded my soul.
annon

earthangel@telcomplus.net

I have felt this way often..how about you??
if you read this and it helped in any way let me know..


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