Hi Quipper,
I'm not sure if it was you, but someone posted a reply talking about the instinctive tendency to grow tired with a relationship after 5-7 years.
Was that you? If so, can you explain what you know about that?
I'm not having any relationship problems, but I've been with my guy for almost 5 years and we'll probably get married pretty soon. I'm just curious about that tendency.

Thanks!
Smile

Dear Smile,

I recently ran across a book at the library which talked about the stages of relationships by years together. I saw it in Dewey Decimal no. 306. I will pick it up, and report back.

I don't recall knowing what hapens at year 5, off hand, and I don't recall making a post as if I did know what happens at the 5 year stage.

Thanks for not mentioning Michael Jackson is my fault.

Quipper,
Husband of 28 years, raised 2 challenging kids, still struggling

<small>[ November 20, 2003, 06:18 PM: Message edited by: Quipper ]</small>

He's not your fault? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />
You take an incredible load of criticism quite gracefully. I haven't read all of your posts, but I tend to like your style and hope you stick around.

The airport that MJ flew in to is close enough that I heard the helicopters circling all morning. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />
That man has got some serious issues that couldn't possibly be blamed on anyone but the drugs he's on and the planet he came from.

Thanks,
Smile

Quipper....Now you know I didn't say MJ is your fault. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" /> I started doing research on the book you quote so that I could talk intelligently about it....I didn't want to just dismiss your interest in it, without knowing what the book contained. The timing of MJ's arrest and his association with the rabbi is not my fault either you know, but that's what came up when I put in the name of the book in the search engine. I have not meant to make you feel persecuted with these debates of ideas....and I ask your forgiveness if I've hurt you. I made the assumption (perhaps erroneously) that when
someone takes a controversial position...they are prepared to defend it....not just with opinions, but with some research.

There are a couple of issues that we have been discussing that I have drawn a hard line about....I know that. One of them is that voyeurism is against the law (and not about low or high sex drive). The other, is the association of "love" with sexual abuse of children. I dont think either of those views is extreme and I have tried to argue them logically....though I admit somewhat passionately. Perhaps I am simply throwing too much information at you all at once. I tend to be a barrage poster....so I will give you some time to consider my arguments and respond....or not.

What I will not do is to harass you, but will give you time to reply if you see fit. You throw out ideas to make people think....I do the same....in that way, we are not so different in that way even if our ideas are. I do think that your separation from the concepts on this site will raise controversy....whether I back off or not. Obviously, if the moderator has become involved, it is not just some personal agenda of my own, though I suspect it feels that way to you. I know it feels personal to you....even if I have nothing personally against you aside from the fact that we simply do not agree. Good Luck

Smile...here a couple of links to articles about the stages of marriage:

The Five Stages of Marriage

The Stages of Marriage

Marriage and Love: Myths about Marriage

A Lifetime Prescription for Sizzling Sex, Now and Forever

Starfish...fabulous!
Thank you for taking the time to gather those links for me. I mentioned this to 5X on the way home and am interested in reading a little more. This looks great.
Thanks again,
Smile